Whats the best way I can get this girl at my gym to flex?

It's a complex area obviously. I've found past abuse makes some women super-sensitive to things like simple compliments others find completely non-offensive, even greatly appreciated. In the present environment even healthy flirting is often considered verboten. Just saying we need to be sensitive but also a little less uptight.

I'm not talking about weirdos or predators, and I don't wanna sound like a misogynist.

Saying hi or being nice is risky nowadays.

When I first signed up to my gym around 2005, it was a common thing greeting people on treadmills or spin bikes near you.

Now I do it only with guys or long time female friends.

You can't even warn someone out of courtesy, when they do their exercises the wrong way.

It's hard because some women like that or don't care while others hate it a lot but with the way society is right now. it takes just one to totally ruin your life. so it's not worth the risk trying this with women you don't know well is like Russian roulette. so it's a few bad ones ruining it for everyone. and people try to ignore the problem because a long time ago women got harassed often so they made stricter laws and made that behavior unacceptable. but now there is an unintended side effect that caused society to be more prudish. and it gives people the ability to abuse the legal system. and it's not just the legal system you got to watch out for but also people who are just agressive when this happens.

I totally agree with you.

Depp v. Heard trial really opened my eyes.

If a woman makes false accusation against you, it's like a Monopoly go to jail card.

An Average Joe would have faced a 15-year sentence.

I might be paranoid, but I'm not comfortable stepping into elevators with women and so on.

I might be paranoid, but I'm not comfortable stepping into elevators with women and so on.

There is so much to unpack with this. Good lord.

You are being paranoid.

There is a massive difference between stepping into an elevator with a woman, and saying nothing, or just hello, or asking her which floor, and pressing that button on the elevator, or saying have a good evening as she steps out of the elevator. Those are just being polite and are good manners.

Suddenly asking her to flex for you is creepy, unwelcome and so on. She is in the elevator to get from Floor 1 to Floor 7.

A gym is no different. She is there to work out, not to act out some fantasy for a weirdo.

The grey area is asking her out for a drink, but if you are worried that it might turn into a Go To Jail Card, then don't take the risk.

Man. What's wrong? Obviously it is creepy going to a muscle girl and just say can you flex? Of course not. We are talking about someone that you already are meeting, with whom you may have a chance of something. The second time that I asked a woman to flex it was because she seems interested on me and also she'd already touched my arm without even asking, they can do that why can't you asked for it? Btw I also massage her back after a couple days after that, we are friends now.

Man. What's wrong? Obviously it is creepy going to a muscle girl and just say can you flex? Of course not. We are talking about someone that you already are meeting, with whom you may have a chance of something. The second time that I asked a woman to flex it was because she seems interested on me and also she'd already touched my arm without even asking, they can do that why can't you asked for it? Btw I also massage her back after a couple days after that, we are friends now.

Guys have skipped that part: that was literally the topic of their interaction for a moment.

Ask her "which way to the beach?"

Ask her "which way to the beach?"

This thread should be filled with stuff like this.

This is actually pushing the limits because you're revealing that you're looking at her body, but it still works as a casual observation/joke, IMO. Edit: this would also be one you’d only use if you already built a rapport with a woman.

There's probably a "bag of tricks" you could use to get a woman to flex, but it all has to be indirect stuff that merely makes it more likely for a flex to happen. You can never really be direct.

Or, think of the times you recall that a woman voluntarily flexed. If you're keen enough to recall what led up to the flex, you could try to carefully implement it into conversations. Build the bag of tricks. But like others say, you have to be smart about it.

Wouldn't you prefer to ask her out and have sex with her? Might actually be easier. Pursue her like you have pursued any girl. Tons of chicks on this site flexing.

If you just want to see her flexing, ask if she'd like a gym buddy next time she's hitting the weights. If you are interested in more than that, ask her out.

Easy, do you know her well or is she your girlfriend? Then just ask her.

You dont know her? Dont do it

This site really is full of lunatics. She is a total stranger. She has joined a gym for herself, not to entertain some weirdo like you. Do not ask her to do anything to feed your fantasies, otherwise she is likely to complain about you as a creep or for sexual harassment. You are likely to get banned from the gym.

Agreed.

If you knew her fairly well, it would be different.

If it was 1995 instead of 2025, it would be different.

But this situation, here and now? OP needs to leave it alone.

If you are interested in her just ask her out.

How about this OP, I have mentioned this on other topics, and I think this applies to yours.

Why don't you ask this question on a women's fitness or bodybuilding forum/subreddit, and see what they say?

I don't think it'd be a good idea to ask. You will more than likely get to see her flexing while doing the instructed exercises. And if you two hit it off naturally, the moment to ask her to flex will arise at some point. Overthinking could lead to an awkward proposal. Lucky you though

Not trying to suggest anything but today I've met a woman in college for the first time in weeks. We're not close friends.

After the first greet and a 10-second small talk I just looked at her arms and said "you're so muscular". And she promptly smiled and flexed her bicep.

Ok, maybe I live in another world... But for me it wasn't a big issue.

Again, I'm not trying to convince anyone to repeat this experiment.

I will be talkin' about my feminine point… I take it for granted. I don't know.. curiosity to see how the arm would be bent or the abdomen. I don't see it as something strange. But I'm going to assume that some women might find it strange... If you say it naturally, without paranoia about feeling strange or inadequate, it will sound natural to the girl too. A lot of people here ask me to see my abdomen or arm flexed, and I don't find it strange. Maybe in my country it's more natural, people take training very seriously and are obsessed with results, they take a thousand selfies in the gym mirrors flexing every possible part of their body lol that's natural? If you already categorize yourself as inadequate, there's no way, you'll be inadequate. Try to break this pattern in your mind...

I will be talkin' about my feminine point… I take it for granted. I don't know.. curiosity to see how the arm would be bent or the abdomen. I don't see it as something strange. But I'm going to assume that some women might find it strange... If you say it naturally, without paranoia about feeling strange or inadequate, it will sound natural to the girl too. A lot of people here ask me to see my abdomen or arm flexed, and I don't find it strange. Maybe in my country it's more natural, people take training very seriously and are obsessed with results, they take a thousand selfies in the gym mirrors flexing every possible part of their body lol that's natural? If you already categorize yourself as inadequate, there's no way, you'll be inadequate. Try to break this pattern in your mind...

I love this point of view! Reality.

When we go out to bars or clubs my wife is constantly approached to flex or arm wrestle. Although we have won many drinks because of the arm wrestling, she thinks that anyone approaching her in this manner are creepy assholes. So, keep that in mind too.

When we go out to bars or clubs my wife is constantly approached to flex or arm wrestle. Although we have won many drinks because of the arm wrestling, she thinks that anyone approaching her in this manner are creepy assholes. So, keep that in mind too.

Well, when they are strangers.