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I have been in an on-off relationship with a stunning muscular girl for over 7 years. We've had months apart but keep going back to each other. It's a co-dependent relationship. She suffers with poor mental health and I'm some sort of care provider, whereas I get to be with the woman of my dreams, in the physical sense.
We recently broke up and no other girls are coming close to the attraction I feel for her. It's like she's ruined women for me. I dare say we will have a moment of weakness and go back to each other, but it's not healthy for either of us.
I feel I've lived out the muscle fetish fantasy and now nothing can compete with it, unless I find another jacked girl.
In real life, I don't see myself in a relationship with a gwm.
The only time I really fell in love, she wasn't muscular at all.
Unfortunately a dumb family member, fu**ed up our bond so badly, that now we hardly even talk to each other.
I still appreciate the random streets encounters, but it's more like a fantasy.
When I'm attracted to a girl, who is the opposite of the girls we have here, I know it's something more than a friendship.
I'm not a teenager anymore, so physical attraction is secondary.
If you get in a relationship with a muscular woman, and she suddenly loses her muscles.
You dump her?
That's why you need affinity, an attractive personality, and things like these, before asking someone to be your girlfriend or wife.
Just my two cents.
When I got with my girl, she wasn't muscular at all. She developed her body over 7 years. The attraction was her personality at first and we had a few good years until her mental health started to decline and there was a power dynamic shift in the relationship.
I've also learned more recently that I am neurodivergent, and having a very attractive girl around was helping with the low levels of dopamine that I have. Effectively, I was an addict, and she was the drug.
I have had this “fetish” or attraction all my life, until I finally moved to a very big city, was single and saw this huge fbb in my gym and decided to finally shoot my shot. It was actually having a relationship with her that mostly soured my attraction, not only does having that body take up a ton of money and time, it was also that so many of her attitudes and mannerisms were so manly. When I told my friends back home, they were like “gee, are you surprised, look at her?!” I guess not.
Now I still like girls into fitness but I’m totally turned off to the roidbeasts I’d obsess over all day.
Being older, I’ve been able to keep my fetish known only to me and that’s the way I like it. My first wife was strong, not muscular, but tomboy strong. Drugs ruined that marriage. I’m happily married now, but sometimes it’s hard to reconcile my feelings for a muscular physique with my present situation, so I will go to HBC site and get my fetish somewhat fulfilled. It’s a matter of controlling it, even though it can cost me a few dollars. But I’m good with that.
I'm 73 and have had a muscle fetish since my early 20s. My fetish involves female and male muscle and I make no apologies. I do feel some guilt especially because I've kept it a secret but it's never been a curse. Muscle is my 'go to' for a mental and sexual outlet even though I've been married over 40 years.
That’s kind of where I’m at. I’m 71 and have felt this way for awhile. I guess Tina Lockwood was my first muscle “love” when the WPW magazine was about the only way to satisfy the fetish.
I have never seen it as a curse. Because I'm attracted to regular women too. Muscles just enhance the basic attraction by a lot. Only remorse I have is that I've spent hundereds, if not thousands, of hours in websites like this. I've had so much positive emotions during that time but I probably wouldn't be doing something productive if I didn't have this particular interest. This could be my story too. I feel the muscles that give a female physique it’s curves enhances a woman’s body and the only way for me to satisfy my fetish is on the internet
Of course, it's a very bad curse, to be honest. You feel very strongly sexually attracted to women, of whom there are very few, who have terrible voices and who are often excellent narcissists and egomaniacs in their basic psychological structure. And you're supposed to love something like that?
You realize that a lot of strength athletes AREN’T narcissists and egomaniacs, right?
What's the problem...haha...that's what they are...accept it...it's unusual but nothing bad...unless you don't just like the extremes...a mountain of muscles and veins with superhuman strength!! I don't know anyone who likes busty girls and is with a girl without tits!!! There are girls with marked muscles and natural strength...and if they train it's better!!! look for those girls and then use your imagination!!! think about the strength and muscles you could develop with training!!! be happy and fulfilled as much as you can... there is only one life
You just gotta carve your own path out in life amigo. Whether you want to keep it completely private or totally public or something in between is up to you and depends on your style. You don't need a goddamn professional bodybuilder just get a chick who you love and who wants to lift with you it's that simple. It will build a healthy connection. Or you can avoid all that trouble if you're handsome and stay single for a while. But choose your path and take it buddy going to wait around to the sidelines until you're almost dead wishing you lived your life
You realize that a lot of strength athletes AREN’T narcissists and egomaniacs, right?
Well, "strength athletes", if you mean powerlifters or weight lifters, might be different. But serious female bodybuilders? No, not many of them have "normal" characters. If I were a psychotherapist, I would open a practice just for extreme female bodybuilders - and I would never be unemployed...
> > Third - finding a partner. Who you end up with for the rest of your life will not be someone with looks you’ll care about in 5 to 10 to 15 to 20 years. You want to marry your best friend.
This is, hands down, some of the absolute worst advice I have read on this forum. First of all, it's utterly false. Yes you will care about how your partner looks in 5, 10, 15 years. Secondly, marrying your best friend is Disney crap you were brainwashed by as a child.
I was partnered with someone I loved deeply and who loved me deeply. She was beautiful, but I wasn't attracted to her. She and I had a lot in common and very compatible senses of humor, but we were not best friends and did not share everything with each other the way that best friends will do. Yes we got along magnificently but to say we were best friends is ridiculous.
Take it from someone who has lived a lot, seen a lot, and endured a lot: you will forever have a wandering eye and/or feel an acute sense of lack if your partner doesn't fulfill your sexual desires. Period. Full stop. And forget about this Disney concept of marrying your best friend. Marry someone you are physically attracted to, someone who you can trust, someone who you can laugh with, someone who is happy and positive and encouraging. No long-term relationship will prosper without ALL of these ingredients.
Well said with no doubts whatsoever. I can attest: 13 years with my best friend but not attracted to her because she wasn’t muscular. Divorced 7 years. When I dated I tried to date only fit/muscular women. Now with a super fit babe 3 years. I posted pics of her on the girlfriends/wives thread. If you want muscular go get it!
@gominhos. I've never been engaged. Never been one to commit to a life long relationship. I did share on another thread that three of my 5 or 6 prime relationships were with buff women. One was an FBB who competed once. One was a martial arts black belt who was nicely buff. The third was probably the most muscular of the three, but just lifted for fun and health.
Nobody replied to that post, which led me to think that no one believed it. Seems like a lot of guys just like to whine and moan that "I can't even find buff women, let alone date any." I'm still pretty close to two of the women, but lost track of the black belt. Both are physically active, but don't lift much due to orthopedic issues.
I live in the Intermountain West and have never noticed a problem finding buff women. But one doesn't find them in dark gyms. Depending on weather, one finds buff women going uphill on trails, running, biking, hiking, and doing lifting of 20-30 pound packs. Despite all the snow, and lower elevations get less, the West averages 300+ sunny days per year.
Buff women are found in college towns like Missoula, Bozeman, Salt Lake City, Provo, Fort Collins, Boulder, Denver, Colorado Springs, Durango, Albuquerque, Flagstaff.... And elsewhere. Then there is Southern California.... You get the picture.
But, like other posters have said, muscle is only a part of a solid and successful relationship. Good luck.
I have a question for guys attracted only to buff ladies.
I would love to read from someone, who was engaged to a muscular woman, who lost her muscles or got smaller.
How did you manage to keep your relationship alive?
Did you split up?
I read a peer reviewed article recently in a psychology journal that concluded that strong and long lasting relationships also require both partners to maintain attraction to each other over time. If we agree, that means we need to practice lifestyles of working out and eating healthy and find partners with identical values to maintain long term compatibility. This is obvious when we see buff women coupled with buff men. Everyone looses looks with time eventually. We need to keep up as best as possible for the relationship to succeed. But strong long term relationships also need a varied foundation of other compatibilities.
@gominhos. I've never been engaged. Never been one to commit to a life long relationship. I did share on another thread that three of my 5 or 6 prime relationships were with buff women. One was an FBB who competed once. One was a martial arts black belt who was nicely buff. The third was probably the most muscular of the three, but just lifted for fun and health.
Nobody replied to that post, which led me to think that no one believed it. Seems like a lot of guys just like to whine and moan that "I can't even find buff women, let alone date any." I'm still pretty close to two of the women, but lost track of the black belt. Both are physically active, but don't lift much due to orthopedic issues.
I live in the Intermountain West and have never noticed a problem finding buff women. But one doesn't find them in dark gyms. Depending on weather, one finds buff women going uphill on trails, running, biking, hiking, and doing lifting of 20-30 pound packs. Despite all the snow, and lower elevations get less, the West averages 300+ sunny days per year.
Buff women are found in college towns like Missoula, Bozeman, Salt Lake City, Provo, Fort Collins, Boulder, Denver, Colorado Springs, Durango, Albuquerque, Flagstaff.... And elsewhere. Then there is Southern California.... You get the picture.
But, like other posters have said, muscle is only a part of a solid and successful relationship. Good luck.
Interesting. Reminds me of the Beach Boys singing, Wish they
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