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First off, bars aren’t going to be the places that you’re going to find FBBs. Also, If you’re ONLY looking for FBBs, you’re basically looking for a very, very, very small number of women. What about fit women in other sports/activities? There are plenty of buff women in CrossFit, Powerlifting, Olympic Lifting, rock climbing, etc.
Your absolute best bet with putting yourself in a position to meet muscular women is to actually be involved in strength sports yourself. Join a gym that caters to hardcore bodybuilders, get involved in an Olympic lifting program, join a CrossFit gym (LOTS of fit women at CrossFit gyms,) and basically get yourself into those respective communities. And by that, I don’t mean, immediately upon joining a CrossFit gym, for example, instantly hit on all the ladies there: that’s a good way to get yourself ostracized. Instead, establish a friendly rapport with both the men and women. Build your network as you get more into whatever discipline you get into. It’s gonna take some time, but pretty soon, when people at your gym and the community see you as a pretty rad dude, more opportunities will open to meet more people, and that can possibly be finding women to go out with. With the pandemic seeming to near the end, and things opening up again, you’ll see more events that you can go to. Go to competitions (as a spectator and maybe even as a competitor. Also, start going to fitness expos when they start back up. It’s just like professional networking.
If you want to date a fit buff woman, you gotta put the effort in. There is no magic dating app, no special bar that you can go to. It all comes from getting into shape yourself, integrating yourself with the community, establishing yourself as a friendly (NOT creepy) person, and building your network. Right now because of COVID, it’s hard to do, but it looks like we are approaching the end of that, so now is the time to start.
OK will thanks I mean I train at gym but never come across any fbb types..thanks for info
Houston has had a ton of FBBs over the past 20 years or so. I have personally seen Melissa Dettwiller, Gina Davis, Nat Rochner, and Macey Toney around town in that time, so they are around. Now, meeting them and trying to date them is a different matter. Most want someone who is as into the physique industry as they are. I've lifted since I started playing jr high football, so I'm immersed in training and truly love it, but I have never been in physique sports and never have used a bit of gear. That excludes me pretty much from that world. The one of them I met was Gina Davis, though, and she was very nice and seemed very nice and open to meeting men in general.
Other than that, just hit hardcore gyms in larger towns and fitness expos. Or become a photog. They meet and befriend more muscular women than anyone. Show promoters do very well, too. JM Manion had bikini and figure girls all around him, even though he was never to be mistaken for Brad Pitt.
That's amazing, but sadly I'm front UK...
Wow thanks I fudnt expect such enthusiastic replied...
But hiw would you break the ice meeting a fbb lets say in gym?
^ A simple hi???
I dunno.... They mostly wear XL sized headphones. I'm convinced this is a deliberate anti-shmoe tactic designed to stymie any and all verbal contact. Also, let's face it, 95% of guys in the gym have also clocked her and their brains are whirring plotting the best way to have a blast at her. I think your chances of getting lucky at the gym are infinitesimally small - I've managed it twice in 35 years and both times it required bags of patience and several months very gently escalating and manipulating things. I've had far more success via social media. If you spot a lady in say Irons Gym Wigan, get all over the #Ironsgymwigan on social media and you will have a decent chance of finding her pages if she's active online. Okay, you may have to trawl through a LOT of posts and profiles but it's worth the effort. Even if you draw a blank on the lady you were looking for, you will stumble across others you were unaware used the same gym. Start following, liking, interacting and see where it goes. I've ended up meeting several ladies with this approach.
I dunno.... They mostly wear XL sized headphones. I'm convinced this is a deliberate anti-shmoe tactic designed to stymie any and all verbal contact. Also, let's face it, 95% of guys in the gym have also clocked her and their brains are whirring plotting the best way to have a blast at her. I think your chances of getting lucky at the gym are infinitesimally small - I've managed it twice in 35 years and both times it required bags of patience and several months very gently escalating and manipulating things. I've had far more success via social media. If you spot a lady in say Irons Gym Wigan, get all over the #Ironsgymwigan on social media and you will have a decent chance of finding her pages if she's active online. Okay, you may have to trawl through a LOT of posts and profiles but it's worth the effort. Even if you draw a blank on the lady you were looking for, you will stumble across others you were unaware used the same gym. Start following, liking, interacting and see where it goes. I've ended up meeting several ladies with this approach.
I think you’ll find that most people, not just female bodybuilders, wear headphones to avoid talking to people at the gym. Like I mentioned earlier, the best bet to meet buff women isn’t at those big box chain gyms where people want to work out and get out as quickly as possible, but rather at smaller, boutique gyms that foster and encourage community (think CrossFit gyms, boot camp gyms, smaller powerlifting gyms.) And from there, start networking with both the men and women.
in the last two months or so i have approached a few women at my gym just to give them a compliment or ask if i can work in a machine because i was short on time. pretty much any time after that interaction they all basically ignore my existence.
i am a below average looking guy. I'm like a Kansas 5 which makes me an LA 2 lmao. so that may be part of it. i know at least two or three of them have boyfriends (those are the ones I didn't give compliments to). but it is super frustrating to see the same women get approached by other guys and give them the time of day. And the ones that I have tried to chat with it was very clear that they were not interested in having a conversation.
though to be fair i think they were just uninterested in having conversation in general. aside from one woman who is super chatty with a guy i talk with ALL THE TIME at the gym, and another who seems to talk to anyone that talks to her so.
idk shits weird. i would say don't bother approaching them at all if you're interested in their physique.
And from there, start networking with both the men and women.
That's an important point. Women can see what you're up to if you're only trying to talk to women, and you'll be shut out by most of them as a result. Word gets around, they'll know you're not serious about working out and just trying to get in their pants.
"Don't approach women you're interested in." WRONG. DO APPROACH WOMEN YOU'RE INTERESTED IN! Be chill, cool, etc. DON'T COMPLIMENT HER. Over time your game will improve.
That's an important point. Women can see what you're up to if you're only trying to talk to women, and you'll be shut out by most of them as a result. Word gets around, they'll know you're not serious about working out and just trying to get in their pants.
i'll second this, and you don't have to work very hard to do it. just ask dudes for spots and then before you know it you'll be chatting.
you won't know each others names, but you'll be chatting lmao
"Don't approach women you're interested in." WRONG. DO APPROACH WOMEN YOU'RE INTERESTED IN! Be chill, cool, etc. DON'T COMPLIMENT HER. Over time your game will improve.
sorry I should've clarified that the gym is a specific place that I normally wouldn't. saw a great comment elsewhere that try and do it where women WANT to be rather than where they NEED to be.
depends on the woman, but the gym could be either, or both. but better odds if she just wants to be there in general, and you can sometimes tell who those are off the bat
And while I mentioned this earlier, I think it warrants repeating:
Competitions and expos are great places as well, and people are more than likely more open to chatting than at a big box gym. I compete in CrossFit, and have attended competitions as a spectator in powerlifting and bodybuilding, and I also go to expos and conventions in my city, and have met some pretty cool people through there.
However, to maximize the effectiveness of that, you should probably make the effort to look fit and like you work out. I have seen schmoes who look, and I’m sorry but this is going to sound a bit judgmental, like they have never stepped foot in a gym (they’re either really skinny or really fat) hitting on the women there, and it just looks so awkward lol.
Wow thanks I didn't expect such enthusiastic replies...
But how would you break the ice meeting a fbb let's say in gym?
Although not 100% true across-the-board for every single person who ever read an article and/or walked into a gym, generally speaking, all those articles since the 1980s are gyms being the "new place to meet women" have been mostly bullshit. For the vast majority, gyms are the place where people work out a lot and socialize a little.
Sure, some are hoping to meet partners at the gym. But among those who do, most were NOT looking for it. It just happened organically.
Unless you're hot - which you probably are not, since most people are not - if you establish yourself as "creepy gym guy who hits on all the fit girls" and especially if you're awkward in the process because you lack self-confidence, not much ice is going to be broken.
A lot of what goes into successful dating is knowing what not to do. The more serious a woman is about her workouts, the less likely she is to be interested in being approached by a fan or prospective suitor at the gym.
A lot of what goes into successful dating is knowing what not to do. The more serious a woman is about her workouts, the less likely she is to be interested in being approached by a fan or prospective suitor at the gym.
this includes: pump covers, headphones of any size, intentionally is on her phone a lot between sets (or not, but that's a clear sign to me).
i've limited myself to asking for help if i need it, usually recording, or if they're done with a machine.
I just made a tinder account for the first time ever and found 12 different fit to muscular girls on there - was honestly surprised I didn't expect it
lol @Gatsby: "However, to maximize the effectiveness of that, you should probably make the effort to look fit and like you work out. I have seen schmoes who look, and I’m sorry but this is going to sound a bit judgmental, like they have never stepped foot in a gym (they’re either really skinny or really fat) hitting on the women there, and it just looks so awkward lol." I picture a lot of those "Schmoes" hang out at the "S" site also are in the retirement age as well I'm picturing that one mod "o". Also that one picture of Gillian Kovack with that one schome too. Just don't be those guys like gatsby said!!!
Anyways I know this one girl at my gym who works out really hard and we always say hi or good morning to each other. I don't know much about her other than that but she seems friendly and some people talk to her for a bit before she continues her training and goes off to work afterwards.
I know another that can do bikini/figure if she wanted to and is married with children. She is quite chatty though.
Anyways just focus on training or whatnot.
Forever Alone
I wanted to say something here to get things off my chest. I want a relationship with a woman. I am not worthy of a relationship with anyone. Anyone reading that may scoff and say that I'm putting myself down, and to buck up. Reality is that I have realized that I am not good enough for anyone. I am separated from my wife, and some day we will go through with the divorce. She kicked me out for lying about food and money. It wasn't a kicking out more of she didn't want me around her for a time, and now it seemed to become a more permanent thing. After all this I realize that I am such a lowly piece of s--t that I am not even close to good enough to be around another person. My son is with me half the time, and even then I try to teach him things that I've learned, so he can be better than me. I would love to have someone else in my life, but I know I should not want this. Every single day I realize I am not good enough for anyone.
I see an attractive woman at the gym, and just for a flash I wonder if I should talk to her. That flash passes and I realize that I have nothing to offer. The woman I saw has her own life. She has her own hopes and dreams and desires, and since I am such an a--hole I could never be one of them. Women don't look at me and see me as anything, and this has been my entire life. It is as if God has been telling me my entire life I should not be with another person, and the one time I tried to fight it I am now going to get a divorce. I would love to see a woman at the gym, and think that I could make her life better by being in it. The truth is, any belief I have in such a possibility would be false.
Everyday I wake up alone, and I have to again remind myself that it is for the best. I can not add any value to a woman's life. I should stop trying. That doesn't mean I am not polite and nice. It means that being a compassionate and caring person is all I can do. I can care for others, but I will not expect anyone to care for me. I workout at the gym to keep myself healthy and strong to help others. I expect no one to help me. I am there for other people. I have no one there for me.
All this to say that dating a woman would be pointless. You go on a date to see if two people are a good fit, not perfect but good enough. I would like to spend time with a physically fit woman, but it would be pointless. The only thing I could do is hope to find someone else better suited for her. I was always good at matching people up, just not with myself. I see no point in fighting God's plan for me, and will be forever alone.
All this to say that dating a woman would be pointless. You go on a date to see if two people are a good fit, not perfect but good enough. I would like to spend time with a physically fit woman, but it would be pointless. The only thing I could do is hope to find someone else better suited for her. I was always good at matching people up, just not with myself. I see no point in fighting God's plan for me, and will be forever alone.
Hey Steve,
If you see any hot babes, tell 'em they can always find good company and a free beer in Loraine, Ohio.
Well I'm from UK I dint seem any muscular women, and gosh u think its so hard to get a girl here,its crazy...but I'm being told to visit gay bars, to meet women, so am I being made a fool of or not?
which country/city are you in ?
I just made a tinder account for the first time ever and found 12 different fit to muscular girls on there - was honestly surprised I didn't expect it
Hotel host the contest, when there's competitions - you'd see an FBB'er or a WPD lady at the lobby.