My boyfriends into FBB but I’m chubby.

> Many members here shared some good and healthy points about relationship and communication and they were clear that your relationship is great since he cares. > Nickname and the use of the term FBB is also suspicious. > > But on the off chance you're not a troll, you might feel uncomfortable bringing it up right away. Or perhaps you might need some time to think and decide when to talk it through later. There's one question that was left mostly unanswered: > "Is there anyway to bring this “kink” into the bedroom without actually getting muscular." > > I suggest you dig through the forum a bit. There was a thread on whic aspects members of muscular women members here like the most. Some enjoy strength, some are into being domeinated while others are purely into aesthetics. There were a lot of answers that go into detail. Some have sthenolagnia (fascination with muscles) and some cratolagnia (fascination of strength). Sometimes it overlaps, sometimes not. > It depends on what your boyfriend might actually like. Communication will help, but there are some obvious ways to bring this into the bedroom. > > 1) He might like to touch/feel muscles like many members here do. Flexed thighs or calves are great options. High heels are your friend. As well as this : position. you can encourage him to caress your thighs. Flexed thighs are tight and feel nice > > 2) He might enjoy you taking charge, you pinning him. Basically light domination. > > 3) Other more pronounced BDSM practices > > 4) cosplay/strenght play - e.g. dress up as wonder woman and he can pretend you have super strength. > > 5) you can do squats or some workout as a form of foreplay > > 6) leggings and squatting on his face were suggested. legitimate option > > i'm sure you can think of many more > > there are many options. His preference might vary from what members here will suggest. Some of these you can test for very subtly in case you don't feel comfortable speaking about yet. > Although he will probably feel very relieved and after the talk about this kink openly and seek understanding, you two will likely build a better relationship. > good luck

I promise I’m not a troll lol and I did read a bit on this forum before posting and picked up FBB pretty quickly. Idk why my username is suspicious I just thought it was to the point lol. ANYWAY. This is maybe the most helpful comment so far I really do appreciate the specifics and language around it! I know he loves it when I lay on top of him and like put all my weight on him though he’s never said that in a sexual way and I do know he likes to be scratched during sex. If his kink does lean dom I think I could be enthusiastically into it. If it more of an aesthetic only thing that’s where I start to feel unsure. I guess I could buy a muscle suit 😅 We have a lot to talk about! If my boyfriend does frequent this forum he will definitely know it’s him I’m talking at this point so maybe that will save me the nerves of starting the convo.

I’m sorry if I’m rambling or not using the forum correctly. I’ve been ruminating of this for like 24 hrs and feel like I’m going a bit crazy holding this in. Thank you for all the advice genuinely 🙏 checking out the link now!

glad to be of help. The username was suspicious because this resembles how the fantasy stories go. They start with insecure, unhappy, or a bullied girl being unhappy with some part of her life and end up with her becoming an amazon goddess. You just hit the trope and were met with skepticism.

I can share a bit more from a guy's pov. When you will confront him about the fantasy, don't assume too much about what he wants and do it with kindness and understanding. The likely reason why he didn't share this kink is because he feels that it's perceived as not normal or acceptable socially and he might feel that his masculinity and your relationship with him might be threatened. It's because he won't be able to un-share it with you and he might feel that you will think less of him as a man if he wants to be dominated or fixate on your muscles or strenght. It depends on how much he's into this kink, but it could be that he learned to hide it for quite a while. And if he feels that it's safe to explore this with you in privacy, it should grow your relationship. Exploring each other's kinks can be loads of fun. It should encourage him to reciprocate and explore your fantasies as well.

You suggesting muscle suit sounds like you care a lot. That part is amazing, but concentrating purely on aesthetics or body type seems not super likely. At least to me.

If he's actually into light dom and you can do it enthusiastically, then it's wonderful. There's plenty of other ways to express this I didn't mention in the last response. E.g. light wrestling sessions. Guys with this kink will definitely enjoy being squeezed between the thighs - body scissor or head scissor moves. It's also likely that he would enjoy looking at you flexing or standing in some power stance regardless of the musculature. Or even you giving him a piggyback ride. It might sound weird, but any kink sounds weird and there's a lot to explore.

Unreasonable fantasies and kink exploration aside, I hope you are still open to working out. Becoming an FBB is an extreme lifestyle choice that does not suit most people, but 1-2 workouts a week is something that should always be on the radar, since it helps look and feel better, and people taking this choice are happy about it later. Having a gym date together is a lot of fun too. And even if you're not into going to gym, you can do yoga, jogging, cycling, acro yoga, or anything similar.

I hope this rambling helps. I'd be happy to hear what's your take on the whole situation after you talk to your boyfriend. Hopefully this won't be a some kind of a friction point of your relationship, but rather a small catalyst to get to know each other better.

I promise I’m not a troll lol and I did read a bit on this forum before posting and picked up FBB pretty quickly. Idk why my username is suspicious I just thought it was to the point lol. ANYWAY. This is maybe the most helpful comment so far I really do appreciate the specifics and language around it! I know he loves it when I lay on top of him and like put all my weight on him though he’s never said that in a sexual way and I do know he likes to be scratched during sex. If his kink does lean dom I think I could be enthusiastically into it. If it more of an aesthetic only thing that’s where I start to feel unsure. I guess I could buy a muscle suit 😅 We have a lot to talk about! If my boyfriend does frequent this forum he will definitely know it’s him I’m talking at this point so maybe that will save me the nerves of starting the convo.

I’m sorry if I’m rambling or not using the forum correctly. I’ve been ruminating of this for like 24 hrs and feel like I’m going a bit crazy holding this in. Thank you for all the advice genuinely 🙏 checking out the link now!

So you two have been together for three years and have enough trust for you to have access through his phone, but you never talked about what preferences you have during sex? Like at all? Bro at this point, talk to your “boyfriend”.

How old are you two? I don’t think you mentioned it…

It doesn’t seem like you are going to get much help on here because the issue is really within the relationship, specifically communication.

There's no way that this is real.

But I think that the obvious answer is: men can sustainably love and cherish a woman but also hold different fantasies outside of them.

My evidence of this is: the entire userbase of this site.

Some guys on here might be in relationships with actual muscular women. You can probably count them on a single hand.

Others are single or not into women.

Which leaves a big community of straight guys with girlfriends and wives who look nothing like the women on this site. They come here to be excited and get off on a specific fantasy, and go on with their life. It's totally possible and quite normal to do this.

It’s irritating to read some of this earnest and sophomoric advice for a post that may not even be real. Both of you need to break up and grow up. Boyfriend needs to learn to be more mature and communicative. Insecure chubby girl needs to get into the gym and work on her insecurities.

There's no way that this is real.

But I think that the obvious answer is: men can sustainably love and cherish a woman but also hold different fantasies outside of them.

My evidence of this is: the entire userbase of this site.

Some guys on here might be in relationships with actual muscular women. You can probably count them on a single hand.

Others are single or not into women.

Which leaves a big community of straight guys with girlfriends and wives who look nothing like the women on this site. They come here to be excited and get off on a specific fantasy, and go on with their life. It's totally possible and quite normal to do this.

While I do agree with that, I think there are also a lot of guys here who, while being into muscular women, have no interest in fitness or interest in putting the effort in getting involved with the fitness community and meeting people from there. It's no coincidence that the people here who are in relationships with muscular women are also into bodybuilding/lifting themselves.

I'm surprised the term "chubby chaser" has not been used in this thread.

People can be into multiple body types.

This is the best thread on this site!