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Does anyone feel like they've been cursed with this fetish?

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

Im 58 and have never had an answer for this "Fetish"! I just wished I had embraced it when I was 20 but instead i9m guilty being afraid my friends would draw some weird conclusion, lol! You only have one life my friend! Do your best with everyday life and go after what you love and excites you! at some point you will not care what everyone thinks. just make sure its still why you are young! Go my friend!

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I feel no guilt or shame... im just annoyed that all my friends get excited over tits and ass and instantly fall in love. Every girl has tits and an ass to some degree ! I am limited to only GWM ! My friends be like "bro ! look at her !!!" and I am just not excited because I can't see any muscle. They just dont measure up unless they have the muscle.

Whatever, learnt to accept it now and enjoy it when it comes

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

Not at all. Marry a gal with some muscle and you’ll always be nuts over her.

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

As a young lad, and someone said it above, you are in the ‘golden age’ of female muscle. Gyms are full of girls lifting heavy, showing off their muscular bodies with pride. 20 years ago it was almost unheard of.

I’m not into huge women, the roids look is a massive turn off, but as soon as I see a woman with athletic toned legs or any upper body muscle it’s an instant boner. I only find fit women attractive, almost over facial looks completely and it is a bit of a curse for me, being with a woman who has put on a lot of weight in mid life. I can’t just run off when there is family involved, so I wish that my attractions were different.

I sometimes think that as a young lad it would be easy to meet hot fit women, but I had no confidence or financial security at that age. Now I have both and am in better physical condition than then, but I feel trapped in my situation. My advice for someone young attracted to fit and muscular women is get ripped, take creatine and lift heavy weights. You can get a good size and if you get a good job and sort yourself financially, work on your confidence, then you can have a field day and bone athletic women till your hearts content 😀. And don’t take steroids at your age and put your health at risk

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

agree with Ryanh1978 .. work on yourself. all women, regardless of physical condition, will look for a partner that is better than her in some significant way.. maybe not muscles.. but are you competent and ambitious financially? can you potentially defend yourself (and protect her) when/if danger lurks around? can you lead her ? (all other factors like confidence will ooze out of you if all of those factors are on point)

the easy access to material that this new age has brought is really good at keeping you lazy and comfortable. (now THAT is a curse).. Human interaction is mandatory, regardless of fetish or preference.. (I mean beyond eyes and ears, so no.. webcam sessions will not suffice!)

its been decades since I started marveling at simple magazine pictures, to the first mpg video clips online.. but nothing beat the experience of actually going to bodybuilding contests, meeting and talking to competitors and other fit girls, or even the reaally famous ones.

So if you are in your 20s, take care of yourself, build yourself physically, financially and mentally.. Save a bit of money to travel to the big contests and work the social factor to all of this.. new contacts, friends and more real access to the athletes is there for the taking.

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

Me for sure...

Dec 09, 2024 - edited Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

im 28. into Female muscle since childhood i remember asking my mom why her friend got such big biceps. she was always very strong and known for being able to lift heavy as a female. and as a small child i was very impressed by that. i feel like that turned into this fetish haha. even though im not into lift and carry stuff only the physique. But well bro. its a curse and blessing at the same time. im a physiotherapist so every now and then im havnig muscular woman with me which then is heaven. my girlfriend is also quite buff but with female softness. you know i started to just accept the fact that im always gonna be attracted to crazy muscular woman. but well try to see it as a luxury car which you would always like to have but probably not gonna get. but still if you get the chance to enjoy it at some point just be happy about it. Internet Porn and sites like this fucked up my Brain a lot. i started way to young with porn. when i went into fbb porn things burned deep into my way of thinking what i want as a girlfriend. back then without it we would never wish for a fbb as a wife because they were not really existing in a way. how often did you see a fbb in your life these days ? you know what i mean. the only way this fetish got this big for me is the unstoppable amount of content that is available through the web. if you know that you do have to accept it or not but then you always gonna feel bad about it. so for me its mor a blessing because i feel like im able to enjoy a side of woman which most men dont. and every time im telling a woman that its good that she got so much muscles ( as a Physiotherapist ) of course they are very happy about it you know. for me its always gonna be a dream which probably never gonna be real for me. but enjoy the times of the web to be able to enjoy those woman. but dont forget real life woman ! all the woman are beautiful and pretty. its not all about the guns you feel me bro ?... you got this my man. I also went thorugh PIED and much more things because of this so i really know what im talking about. but things can change bro.

have a good day brother !

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I wouldn't call it a curse. I enjoy it.

Dec 09, 2024 - edited Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I wish I wasn't attracted to female muscle. Very few people in my life know about it. And for my friends who I have told, they call me a f@g and g@y (jokingly but also hurtfully), even though I've only ever been attracted to women. My family is ultra conservative, I know they want me to marry a conventionally sized woman. On multiple occassions that a muscular woman has popped up on TV they have gagged and said they were gross. It's just so tough living like this when you know FBBs are out of your league unless you somehow commit to bodybuilding yourself (I lift, but not nearly at the same level) or pay for a session (which I think is pathetic).

You have to check on those friends group you are in. Maybe they arent so friends after all.

I remember the first time I got a massive boner because a muscular woman was when I saw Christina Penegar bikini pics with all her perfect washboard abs and no other muscular group so visible or noticeable but her awesome beauty. Then I went from Monica Brant, Moorea Wolfe, Wendy Lindquist, Heather Huschle, Mandy Polk to Cindy Landolt and Lindsey Cope. I share some reels actually with some friends about muscular ripped women like Isabel D'Avis Kiefer, Valentina Werlen, Fernanda Ayala,Claire Thomas, Aimee Cringle, Desi Johnson and many more. The most akward moment was when I started living in the same house with my actual GF and soon she discovered some "printed card-sized" with muscular women emulating a complete playing card set being Cindy Landolt the Ace of spades... I have almost asked her to split up because of it 😂

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

Again, advice from someone older than you:

  1. Stop calling it a fetish. Normalize it in your mind. I promise your friends into T&A don't consider that a fetish.

  2. Stop asking loaded questions about it on femuscle forums. You'll get far too many unhealthy and delusional responses.

  3. Ask on Girls Ask Guys and stop with the "woe is me" attitude. Ask for solutions instead of echoed hopelessness. "Hi! I'm 22 and attracted to women that are fit and muscular. How do I meet them?"

  4. There's no such thing as "leagues". No woman is out of your league until you convince yourself she is. Meanwhile the woman is left wondering why you didn't make your move. You had the opening and psyched yourself out for nothing.

  5. You don't need to "be on gear" or have a bodybuilder's physique. Women, on average agree that they want a man that "takes care of himself" aka works out. They want fitter than average, and bigger than they commonly admit to, but far smaller than you're thinking. In simple terms, if they can see you're solid, some pec and delt under your shirt, if your arms are 15" - 16" flexed, that's more than enough to get most women's attention. Including fit/muscular women. (Look at Emilly Vieira's boyfriend. He's fit. He's lean. He's not huge and you don't need to be "on gear" to attain his physique. He's 10% - 15% bodyfat in his pics. That's doable. His arms are probably 15" - 16" flexed.) If you're not already there, just do progressive overload 3 to 4 days per week for 30 to 60 minutes with consistency. Don't ego lift, just push hard on every rep.

  6. GWM's are human. Just because they like lifting weights doesn't mean they aren't normal in every other way... including being attracted to the same kind of guys that women who don't lift are into. Furthermore, even if they like bodybuilders, it doesn't mean they don't have other types... just like you. And just like you, they know it's harder to find a bodybuilder and are going to be open to dating a variety of body types.

  7. Unless you have a fetish for the woman "using gear" you should know women can gain far more muscle naturally than users on sites like this will tell you. Too many delusional people that haven't actually dated or been in a relationship with any fit/athletic/muscular women.

Everything else to be said was already said well by jtrain in his 2nd and 4th posts. (I don't agree with the assumptions and generalizations in his 3rd post.)

jtrain (Post 2):

22, you've got your life ahead of you. no rush. I'm assuming from your post that you don't have much experience with dating or relationships.

Here's a little general advice from somebody a bit older (45). At your age I was pretty much in the same boat.

But you're on the right track. You've got a job, hopefully with a positive trajectory and long-term career prospects. Work on that.

I don't know what field you're in; in some fields you really need to grind away 80+ hour work weeks to get ahead. If so, you'll need to just focus on that for now, trading off a fun life in your 20's for the long-term reward. Relationships and other fun things will just have to wait.

But if you're able to maintain a better work-life balance, do so. Keep it up at the gym. Take care of your skin and your teeth. Develop a fashion sense that is uniquely you. Go places. Meet people. (And not just women for dating. Hang out with guys. Talk to old people. Old people have life experience and stories.) Go on road trips. Travel. It doesn't need to be super expensive travel, just places that interest you and will leave you with interesting stories to tell. Take up an interesting hobby or two. Not to "meet women," but because they're things that interest you.

You don't need to be the best-looking guy around, and you don't have to be Mr. Olympia. But as you get older, you'll find that your stock will rise - you stay in shape, you have a good job, you have a life and stories to tell, you do interesting things - and women will naturally find you more attractive, especially compared to your peers, and compared to the younger guys who might be better looking but don't have the life experience or the financial stability you do.

Along the way, you might meet somebody who sweeps you off your feet. If so, go with the flow. If not, you've had a hell of a time doing all these things and you've made yourself a better person along the way. You may find over this time that your interest in women broadens. Or maybe it won't. Still, enjoy the journey.

More specific advice to follow...

jtrain (Post 4):

So, practical advice, combining the above two.

You've got plenty of time. No need to rush into anything.

If you don't have a lot of experience with relationships or dating, spend some time building that up. If necessary, don't date at all for now. Just meet people. Expand your social circle. Guys, girls, older people, and so on. Pick up a new hobby or two, join a club. You'll meet people that way, and if necessary you can develop your social skills.

Do interesting stuff. Go places. Read books. Do cool things (and "cool" doesn't have to mean "expensive"). That will make you a more interesting - and attractive - person, although you shouldn't do those things for dating purposes.

Take care of your physical and mental health. You don't have to be perfect, but you'll find that as you get older your stock will rise relative to those around you who don't take care of themselves. Women will gravitate toward that.

Now, as far as physical attributes of women, if you're really into athletic, buff women...

It's one thing to look at pictures online. But when you meet somebody in person, it just hits different. Even a small amount of muscle looks way more impressive when you see it in real life. Somebody whose pictures would get deleted from this site for "Not enough visible muscularity" can still look damn good when they're standing in front of you. And if you have something in common with them, they look even better still. I don't know how to explain it, but it's a thing.

My most recent ex-gf was fairly fit. Certainly not of the caliber of the women on this site. But when she would fix her hair she had some visible definition on her arms. No visible abs (although she said she had them for a while when she was younger and doing multiple spin classes per week... something that she couldn't maintain with all the other stuff going on in her life). But if I put my hand on her stomach and got her to laugh, I could feel her abs. Man, was that an instant trip to Bonerville. She wasn't super strong (I could beat her at pretty much anything) but she was strong enough to give me a little competition. I'd actually have to put some effort in (unlike most of my previous gfs). That was a turn-on for me, although I don't think she quite understood. (Very long story there...)

Anyway, my point is that if you're looking for athletic women, you should broaden your horizons. Join a more boutique gym with a more social aspect to it (like Crossfit). Maybe rock climbing, martial arts, or some other athletic activity.

To repeat: DO NOT do this to meet women. Do this because it's something you enjoy. And don't instantly creep on the women. Talk to the guys. Talk to the older people. Talk to the women you don't find attractive. Be sociable. At the very least you'll make some new friends, and develop your social skills. And while you're doing all of this, you can chat up some of the attractive women too. Maybe something happens, maybe it doesn't. At worst, you're having a good time and making new friends.

No, you're probably not going to meet many people whose pics could be on GWM, but you'll meet a lot of athletic, shapely people. And when you meet them in person, and have things in common with them, it just hits different.

Plus, even if they're athletic, even muscular, it's likely to be at a more "socially acceptable" level that won't get you the comments from your "friends" or family. (Again, as an older guy, I assure you things are way different than they were 20-25 years ago. Women are walking around now with a level of muscle that would have drawn stares - in a bad way - back in the 90's or early 2000's. Now it's quite acceptable, and even mainstream guys find them hot. You're living in the golden age, my friend...)

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I don't regret it or feel cursed. It's just an added element to sexual attraction. It makes sex much more enjoyable if you can do it with a fitness/fbb. Some of us prefer it hidden and secret and get a kick out of it being 'naughty'/unaccepted etc... Others are totally open about it and see nothing wrong with it in the slightest. It is pretty tame compared to other types of sexual attraction. Just enjoy it if you can. 👍

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I was addicted to it at a young age and am working on letting go at age 60. It came from seeing the Popeye short Never Kick A Woman at age 5 or so. I know we moved before I was 6 and I recall it from our old house.

This is a pic from that cartoon which I was in 1969 or before. That was before fbbs and I was 5. I often imagined girls stronger than they were and more thickly built beating on the weak girl in class. I thought I was the only one and it would go away. I also was attracted to regular girls that were nice looking as I grew. I was about 12 when I found a wrestling magazine at the store and looked through the back pages and saw the ads for muscle girls and female wrestling. I knew it was a thing and there were others.

It grew from there. I went to many shows and worked out at gyms with near world class and world class level fbbs in the 80's as I got older. I started by going to the old WSE a couple of times and the women lived up to my imaginations. I bought many videos of women wrestling and from WPW. I spent thousands over time. It did cause me to blow an enormous amount of time between the web in 1998 and with videos prior to that. I went to the L Scott stores. I was on DTV. I met many of the top fbbs in person and got to know a few as friends. I worked briefly at the Ny Muscle Club. I worked out myself and was 6-4 and 225-245 most of my adult life, so I was built with some power and muscle. No steroids or thoughts of them ever.

I'm not sure if I can it a curse, an addiction or just something we are born with. It did keep my out of being married most likely as I had several prospects I feared would not accept the continuation of my passion for strong women. I loved the domination aspect though never did a session. It seems like God is telling me to try ti cut it out as my last 2 priests have heard about it in my confessions. They do not condone it. I may need God's help in kicking it after 55 years and increased activity the last 35. It has gone down a bit of late. I was cold turkey for a few months when sick and I was away from insta and GWM stype sites for 6 months. I usually give it up for lent with less activity if nothing else. The women keep getting better and better. It was Kay Baxter to Deanna Panting to Doughdee, Sharon Marvel, Athena, Amy Pazzo, Karla Nelson. Next up was Colette Nelson and Gina Davis. They were amazing. We now have a new level with Instagram and all the Russian muscle girls taking it a level higher. I'm not into the masculine looking girls or those who look like drugs and hormones have changed them in a bad way. I feel guilt for supporting that and perhaps the whole industry. It is fun and exciting on the one hand, but is it God's will for my life is my question? I don't think so thus I am trying to cut back.

The quality of the new muscle girls makes it harder and i do see quite a few others who love the big muscle girls like myself. I got into art a few years back and made my own renders with the help of a pro artist whom I paid. He gave me most of my fantasy scenarios and I have stopped for over 5 and a half years now. The girls are almost approaching the level of my muscle girls which is crazy. I made them mega big and they would bully other girls in the Popeye style. Olive Oyl types or snooty models would take them on like Olive Oyl would.....begin with confidence and then get destroyed. I'm not sure what to recommend for the fella who started this, but I would not let it consume you at the expense of other areas of life. Porn was never my thing. Muscles on girls were and the stronger the girl...the better as long as she looked feminine. That is important to me. That is my story. An addiction or a curse?

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It is a kind of a curse to be honest. I have a normal looking girl, and sometimes in bed I have to think about muscular women in order to get me going. I mean, if she knew it she would probably leave me. Then I have to hide my google searches on PC and smartphone, sometimes it's not easy. But at the end of the day I can live my life easily, when I was 14 I had doubts about the possibility of gettin me going with a normal looking girl.

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

I don’t consider it a fetish. Its a way of life for me. I’ve been bodybuilding for 20 + years and I like women who are into the same way of life as well, at least to some degree. I started this because I like muscle and the way it makes a body look, and I like the feel of firm and hard rather than soft and loose.

I think the fetishists may be the people, who for some reason, don’t prefer a muscular, hard body!

Dec 09, 2024 - permalink

Maybe, but I wouldn't trade my vices for anyone else's because I've been able to avoid what I'd consider worse ones (e.g. alcoholism, gambling). I've come to accept I'll be into muscle girls as long as I live.

Dec 10, 2024 - permalink

I am sorry you have to put up with this. It doesn't matter if your family is conservative or not. Liberals will say s___ but then act hypocritically and would say horrible things. who cares if people think you're gay. I'm very much into FBB. I actually support them on a continual basis. I don't care if they take steroids.

Just support the this industry like I do! You have to take a stand and people will have to accept there are 'weird' people like us.

That's why there is this site. I am glad I found out about it. We just like muscle girls. I was surprised how many times women can beat guys in arm wrestling. Haters will say it's "roids' because they are women.

I am very passionate about FBB and seeing women's weightlifting at the Olympics.

Just keep supporting these women like the rest of us. It's not a fetish. To me it's normal and just loving women being competitive

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

Funnily enough, I was considering posting this very question about two months ago. So, yes, I have felt it many times. And since I'm back to a much more positive place with it now, I thought I'd chime in.

It's felt like a curse in many of my long-term relationships. The last one I was in was going great, she was into it, flexing and lifting a lot, digging that I liked it. And then, something changed. Not sure why -- work? Life's busyness? Basically, turned out it was a fun thing for her for a bit but not HER, if that makes sense. I'd try to get her to join at the gym, but she felt it was a drag. Unurprisingly, our sex life gradually weakened until it was basically nonexistent by the end of our relationship. It felt like a curse then. It still feels tricky navigating something physical and every changing being such an important thing in my relationships. But a healthy sex life is important to me, and the honest truth is if she doesn't embrace her physical strength in some way, it's not going to be good.

But the relationship before that was with someone who legitimately got into it. She lifted many days a week and gained 10-15lbs of muscle. It was AMAZING. And, to top it off, she would flex her biceps and chest while we had sex and grunt and go full primal, sometimes even beating her pecs as she flexed them. I never knew I could get so aroused. If only our personalities got on better, because you gotta enjoy hanging out with each other for something long-term to work. But when we were in bed and at the gym and she'd send me pics when she was pumped, it felt like the exact opposite of a curse.

Now, I'm single again for the first time in years. I'm back on the apps, and I gotta say, I'm blown away at how many muscular women there are compared to the last time I was on the apps five or six years ago. It's insane. Even if women aren't super jacked, they're posting gym selfies, and sometimes they're strong as hell. There has never been a better time to be young and into muscular women, as many have said. I am 36, and I wish sometimes I was younger, because a whole lot of these women are in their 20s -- seems to be a huge thing for Gen Z folks like yourself. But ultimately, it's becoming clearer that I only think it is a curse when I am unhappy with myself and not feeling confident in who I am. Thinking it's a curse stems from a poverty mentality, a mentality of LACK, and it is important to shift that mentality if you are going to experience fulfillment of your desires.

So, my advice is to do things that increase your confidence. For me, a big one is lifting. I have been lifting again the last couple months and gaining more muscle, and I feel so much better walking around and approaching women I find attractive. They feel that, and pretty much every woman will tell you she finds confidence sexy. Be honest with yourself if you're spending too much time on this site. Yeah, it's nice to feel pleasure, but getting yourself to where you need to be internally to meet a confident, muscular woman on her level will take more pragmatic effort. That effort should go toward investing in yourself and shifting your thoughts to believe that meeting, dating, and being with a muscular woman is very much in the realm of possibility for you, perhaps far sooner than you think.

As for the people around you, it's difficult, but you have to work on not needing their approval or understanding. A lot of people will judge it, and a lot of people will not understand it. You don't owe them an explanation. This is you, and that's enough. When you don't need their approval, you won't be affected by their judgments, because you know it's great, and they can't take that away from you. The people who are truly there for you will want to see you happy more than anything.

I've been amazed at how mysterious my journey of flings and relationships with muscular women has been. When I feel like shit about myself, it's like they are nowhere. And that's when I often feel a strong desire for them, which is rooted in a sense of lack -- like I NEED something other than what I have to be fulfilled. When instead I feel great with where I am and am fully invested in what I am doing -- whether it's a lifting set, some work at a coffee shop, or whatever -- I'll look up sometimes and BOOM! There's a jacked woman right in front of me. It's incredibly bizarre and kind of awesome. Not sure if you or anyone else has a similar experience, but the generalizable lesson I've drawn is that amazing things happen when I am not only in alignment with myself, but when I am fully content and present with where I am, doing things for the sake of themselves rather than for some hoped-for reward (i.e. a muscular woman's attention). Women don't like neediness, and they can feel it. And they rarely want to be your savior -- if they do, they probably aren't a muscular badass.

I've connected with a few muscular woman on the apps in the last month or so. That's been great after my last relationship left me feeling hopeless and afraid I'm too old or washed up or whatever. In getting my shit together more, I connected with a badass Crossfitter who's been winning a lot of local competitions at the highest level for the 35+ division. She takes testosterone, and I've always wanted to be with a woman who does. I found it super sexy to talk about, and so did she. Last night, I watched her inject it, and not long after, we were going at it on the couch as her pecs were pressed up against my face. It was freaking awesome, and I attribute much of that awesomeness to feeling confident and grounded in myself rather than reaching for something elusive and illusory. As a bonus, she commented that she noticed my muscle gain, and she clearly liked it. It lifted me up to have it reflected back, knowing I did it primarily to dig myself out of a fear-based hole.

I share that anecdote for two reasons: 1) I am stoked about it, and 2) I want to help instill you with some hope that things can be so much more awesome than your curse-narrative suggests. That is a limiting belief, and it is holding you back, as it has held me back. Your attraction to muscular women is your source of greatest potential bodily pleasure, and while there's always frustrations in our sexual odysseys as men, to consider that a curse is to turn against your nature, which cannot end well. I had hardly told anyone about my attraction to muscular women when I was 22, and once I started talking about it with a therapist and to girlfriends, everything started to change. The more I have owned and embodied it as who I am, the better things have become on every level. What feels like a curse to you can connect you with women on a deep, deep level, because when you learn to embody and express it, so many of them will dig it bigtime, because who doesn't love feeling desired by a significant other?

If you haven't already, I recommend talking about it to a therapist you can trust. Sometimes, just talking about it out loud with someone who will not judge you can work wonders. I wish you the best, mate -- and feel free to shoot me a message if you want to talk any of it out!

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

I'm 73 and have had a muscle fetish since my early 20s. My fetish involves female and male muscle and I make no apologies. I do feel some guilt especially because I've kept it a secret but it's never been a curse. Muscle is my 'go to' for a mental and sexual outlet even though I've been married over 40 years.

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

22, you've got your life ahead of you. no rush. I'm assuming from your post that you don't have much experience with dating or relationships.

Here's a little general advice from somebody a bit older (45). At your age I was pretty much in the same boat.

But you're on the right track. You've got a job, hopefully with a positive trajectory and long-term career prospects. Work on that.

I don't know what field you're in; in some fields you really need to grind away 80+ hour work weeks to get ahead. If so, you'll need to just focus on that for now, trading off a fun life in your 20's for the long-term reward. Relationships and other fun things will just have to wait.

But if you're able to maintain a better work-life balance, do so. Keep it up at the gym. Take care of your skin and your teeth. Develop a fashion sense that is uniquely you. Go places. Meet people. (And not just women for dating. Hang out with guys. Talk to old people. Old people have life experience and stories.) Go on road trips. Travel. It doesn't need to be super expensive travel, just places that interest you and will leave you with interesting stories to tell. Take up an interesting hobby or two. Not to "meet women," but because they're things that interest you.

You don't need to be the best-looking guy around, and you don't have to be Mr. Olympia. But as you get older, you'll find that your stock will rise - you stay in shape, you have a good job, you have a life and stories to tell, you do interesting things - and women will naturally find you more attractive, especially compared to your peers, and compared to the younger guys who might be better looking but don't have the life experience or the financial stability you do.

Along the way, you might meet somebody who sweeps you off your feet. If so, go with the flow. If not, you've had a hell of a time doing all these things and you've made yourself a better person along the way. You may find over this time that your interest in women broadens. Or maybe it won't. Still, enjoy the journey.

More specific advice to follow...

Amazing advice!

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

I've been amazed at how mysterious my journey of flings and relationships with muscular women has been. When I feel like shit about myself, it's like they are nowhere. And that's when I often feel a strong desire for them, which is rooted in a sense of lack -- like I NEED something other than what I have to be fulfilled. When instead I feel great with where I am and am fully invested in what I am doing -- whether it's a lifting set, some work at a coffee shop, or whatever -- I'll look up sometimes and BOOM! There's a jacked woman right in front of me. It's incredibly bizarre and kind of awesome. Not sure if you or anyone else has a similar experience, but the generalizable lesson I've drawn is that amazing things happen when I am not only in alignment with myself, but when I am fully content and present with where I am, doing things for the sake of themselves rather than for some hoped-for reward (i.e. a muscular woman's attention). Women don't like neediness, and they can feel it. And they rarely want to be your savior -- if they do, they probably aren't a muscular badass.

Yes exactly. I had the same exact experience. ... awesome women always showed up in my life when i did not expect it at all and when i was in balance with myself and when i was relaxed and focusing on the basic things of life. And when i did not feel needy .... i was thinking about the same thing a couple of times before. Very interesting that you had/have such similar thoughts and experiences

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

Absolutely. It is hard to deal with. I have wrestled with it for nearly 50 years.

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

OP, I have felt the same way for 25 years. But nowadays with a girlfriend that is decently fit, and is the first one who ever knew I finally feel comfortable. My girlfriend is completely fine with it, and loves teasing me for it as well. For the first time I’ve felt the confidence to tell people around me that I’m attracted to a fit physique, and responses have always been alright.

Dec 11, 2024 - permalink

As for the title, I did not expect the conversation to go that way, but I generally think an issue with this is that - if we assume it is a girl type and not just sexual objects/fetish - is that it kind of is being unrealistic. Like yes they do exist in real life. But they also take drugs with negative effects (again not all) and are so rare to the point almost all are taken. Simply unsustainable. A conventional beauty is more reasonable to maintain, relative to age.

Dec 12, 2024 - permalink

I agree with @phenoms and @muscleflexin and some other posters. To me, my attraction to muscular women is a preference and not a fetish. If one fetishizes female muscle, this may prevent you from meeting a buff athletic woman because you will act weird around her. I don’t see this as a curse either. Like many, I became aware of my attraction during childhood. In high school I was basically invisible to any buff girl. Instead of feeling sorry for myself, this spurred me to start lifting weights, more cardio and also to become more socially interesting. Now I am in middle age and have had relationships with a few buff women as well as my wife. Self awareness and self improvement works and a change in mindset is accessible to everyone free of charge.

Dec 12, 2024 - permalink

It is more of a fetish in my case as my goal was never to seek a relationship with a fitness girl or fbb. I was attracted to feminine women being huge and strong and showing it off. Wrestling or fighting was always a part of it in my mind. I was pretty strong and stronger than most fbbs by the ag tye of 22 and never lacked for the gift of gab. I had no trouble meeting them, but never wanted the relationship b/c I knew about the PEDS and never it it off with any fbbs in a way I would want a sustained relationship. There were a couple where we hit it off great and they liked me for sure in 2 cases, but the lifestyle was not for me. One was very money oriented and spoke of trips we could go on. That was a big name that I will keep private. I would be paying for the trips and ideas I had for her. That one never went anywhere.

I actually prefer seeing it on tape to in person in some cases....especially as I got older. The younger guys here will find out the girls are as good or better in person than they look here. The size is insane in person. I love seeing the public react to their huge muscles. My favorite was always the thought of a top fbb chopping down a taller skinny girl with opposite hair color and other clashes in their look. The Olive Oyl type running into an angry Gina Davis type who calls her skinny and then takes her man away. I'm with the skinny girl but leave with the muscle beauty.

I do enjoy all types of female muscle but those are my fetish aspects of this. I had this at an early age. I'm not sure how that happened or why I loved the strong women so much. I used to dream of them before many were even around....as a young kid. Fbbing was soon to follow and explode. I never did a session though I thought about it once or twice. That was not my thing....being dominated or paying a woman to do things. I'm thankful for that.

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