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Muitobing, I feel you man. I've got some thoughts on this.
But we may be able to help you better with some more info - how old are you, and what is your stage in life (i.e. job/finances, living situation). You can be approximate if you don't want to share anything that might be identifying.
One global point, though. It's damn near 2025.
"Friends" who call people f@gs (or r3t@rds) thinking it's an insult are not good friends, and probably not good people. I grew up in the generation that threw those words around every day. It's not the 80's and 90's anymore.
As far as family, a lot of that will depend on where you are in life.
I wish I wasn't attracted to female muscle. Very few people in my life know about it. And for my friends who I have told, they call me a f@g and g@y (jokingly but also hurtfully), even though I've only ever been attracted to women. My family is ultra conservative, I know they want me to marry a conventionally sized woman. On multiple occassions that a muscular woman has popped up on TV they have gagged and said they were gross. It's just so tough living like this when you know FBBs are out of your league unless you somehow commit to bodybuilding yourself (I lift, but not nearly at the same level) or pay for a session (which I think is pathetic).
If you cannot change it, make it something good :)
I am not sure I do think that the world would be better if more people liked strong and smart women. and I am still attracted to normal women it's just not on the same level. but the problem is that muscular women are ultra rare and most women are turned off by my submissive sexuality. and it's already super hard to get a girlfriend. and sometimes I worry about attracting evil women. like recently I was talking to a woman who was not muscular but interested in femdom. but she really wanted to take things way too far. not every female muscle fan is into bdsm but I have to be careful.
To be honest I get exactly what you mean. It's been a thing for me for a long time as well and I decided to change my life and commit to working out and actually taking PEDs (just test and Anavar) and these women will come to you (especially if you frequent a gym that has these kind of women and they see you working really hard and your body changing right in front of them, it also becomes way easier to talk to them cause they’re more interested in YOU) . I just see it as…life is too short so why not live it the way you genuinely want to despite what people have to say. Also people who have fetishes for muscle girls isn’t a terrible thing…some guys get off on super heavyset women who eat…imagine being that guy. (Sorry to anybody here who may potentially have that fetish too). It’s just preferences. Nothing to be ashamed of.
Muitobing, I feel you man. I've got some thoughts on this.
But we may be able to help you better with some more info - how old are you, and what is your stage in life (i.e. job/finances, living situation). You can be approximate if you don't want to share anything that might be identifying.
One global point, though. It's damn near 2025.
"Friends" who call people f@gs (or r3t@rds) thinking it's an insult are not good friends, and probably not good people. I grew up in the generation that threw those words around every day. It's not the 80's and 90's anymore.
As far as family, a lot of that will depend on where you are in life.
Thanks. I'm 22, making a decent living in a big city, with a tiny social circle. I'm sure my friends mean no harm by calling me those things, they have been there for me at my lowest and help me out a ton with everything else, just a bit insensitive in this regard.
Me too guys. I've liked muscular women since I remember myself but noone seems to get it... I also live in a very small town where muscular women are so few... It's difficult having this fetish. I am in a long committed relationship with a "normal" woman but I am always looking for muscular women...
Sometimes, mainly because muscular women are rare. Women built like Rach White aren't just out and about.
I'm not sure if anyone else feels this way but for me personally having this fetish just feels... wrong.
Like I have friends who have fetishes far weirder than this but to me for some reason they seem more "normal" than being into muscular women. I don't know why because in comparison being into muscular women seems much more normal and tame than being into a lot of other fetishes yet I feel like it's more wrong in a way.
its not a curse.. if you are calling it a curse b/c of what others think about you liking or preferring muscle girls, then your true curse is that you let other's opinions define how you feel. I know that people will react in unexpected ways when they find out what we like.. but regardless of how they react or what they say about it.. how you respond is key.. own it.. shrug and say.."hey, it is what it is.." .. when they find out that there is no point in mocking you or making snarky comments about it .. they'll accept it..
more than anything, its you who must accept and embrace this... and these are the attitudes that push you through all else in life.. in career, friendships and relationships.. go talk to someone who has a passion in an unusual or career not seen as glamorous.. and has been at it for a long time.. same principle.
I feel your pain dude. This fetish isn't a curse to me, but that's probably because I keep it to myself... and because it's never prevented me from being attracted to normal, non-muscular, ladies. So my only advice is keep it private unless you're willing to put up with the teasing. We're allowed some private passions, after all.
I wouldn't really call this a curse for myself honestly. Maybe only a little bit.
Muscular women have the only body type that intuitively and immediately turns me on, but because that body type is so rare (if not impossible to achieve without anabolics), I never really worry about lusting after a girl I meet or know simply because they're conventionally attractive.
Makes it way easier for me to pursue someone in dating for substantive reasons like personality beyond physical attraction. Girls with muscle are pretty much strictly in the fantasy realm for me lol.
I'm not sure if anyone else feels this way but for me personally having this fetish just feels... wrong.
Like I have friends who have fetishes far weirder than this but to me for some reason they seem more "normal" than being into muscular women. I don't know why because in comparison being into muscular women seems much more normal and tame than being into a lot of other fetishes yet I feel like it's more wrong in a way.
The way it feels "wrong" for me is because I am aware that the only way 99.99% of women can achieve this type of muscularity and size is if they take drugs that ultimately put their life at risk.
It's kind of like if I had a fetish for smokers, alcoholics, or hard drug users honestly.
I regret to say that I've long had TWO overwhelming fetishes: one is for GWM, especially girls with huge biceps; the other is slim women with HUGE natural boobs (no limit to size).
Not only are both types of women exceptionally rare, but it also bothers me that I'm attracted to them solely because of their physiques.
I mean, yes, I wish I had found someone who turned me on sexually AND was a nice, sweet, loving person, but the odds of that are even smaller.
And then I must ask the ultimate question: how much would I care for them if they lost their physiques, either a GWM giving up lifting or a busty girl getting a breast reduction?
The answer is, I might still care for them as friends but lovers? Unlikely. And for this, I feel guilt, even though I have no control over my preferences...
I won't call it a curse. But, I have wasted lot of productive time , especially on IG , GWM, Saradas etc.I think my family is aware I like athletic and muscular women. I do feel pangs of guilt sometimes, but have come to accept it as my one of weakneeses.
22, you've got your life ahead of you. no rush. I'm assuming from your post that you don't have much experience with dating or relationships.
Here's a little general advice from somebody a bit older (45). At your age I was pretty much in the same boat.
But you're on the right track. You've got a job, hopefully with a positive trajectory and long-term career prospects. Work on that.
I don't know what field you're in; in some fields you really need to grind away 80+ hour work weeks to get ahead. If so, you'll need to just focus on that for now, trading off a fun life in your 20's for the long-term reward. Relationships and other fun things will just have to wait.
But if you're able to maintain a better work-life balance, do so. Keep it up at the gym. Take care of your skin and your teeth. Develop a fashion sense that is uniquely you. Go places. Meet people. (And not just women for dating. Hang out with guys. Talk to old people. Old people have life experience and stories.) Go on road trips. Travel. It doesn't need to be super expensive travel, just places that interest you and will leave you with interesting stories to tell. Take up an interesting hobby or two. Not to "meet women," but because they're things that interest you.
You don't need to be the best-looking guy around, and you don't have to be Mr. Olympia. But as you get older, you'll find that your stock will rise - you stay in shape, you have a good job, you have a life and stories to tell, you do interesting things - and women will naturally find you more attractive, especially compared to your peers, and compared to the younger guys who might be better looking but don't have the life experience or the financial stability you do.
Along the way, you might meet somebody who sweeps you off your feet. If so, go with the flow. If not, you've had a hell of a time doing all these things and you've made yourself a better person along the way. You may find over this time that your interest in women broadens. Or maybe it won't. Still, enjoy the journey.
More specific advice to follow...
As far as being attracted to FBBs...
Here's an exercise to try.
It sounds like you are fascinated with the idea of dating or being in a relationship with a world-class FBB, of the type you see on this site.
Note that I said "the idea of," because the reality might be quite different from the idea.
Any woman in that kind of shape (insert name of your favorite FBB here), their life is going to revolve around training, the gym, dieting, and so on.
And they're extraordinarily rare, maybe 0.01% of the population. While yes, women like that aren't viewed as attractive by a lot of guys, there are a whole lot of guys (like us) who do. They've got plenty of options.
But let's say you meet (insert name of favorite FBB), and you hit it off and she thinks you're the greatest thing since sliced bread.
Now you want to go on a dinner date. Maybe a weekend getaway. Vacation someplace. Whatever it is, it's going to have to be scheduled around her training, etc.
Maybe you're fine with that, but maybe it's certainly not what you think of when you browse the site and see somebody who looks phenomenal, and imagine what it's like to spend a night with them.
But wait, that's just the start.
This woman is also almost certainly on a stack of gear as high as the Eiffel Tower (particularly if she's as built as your post seems to indicate). Plus supplements, plus gym memberships, coaching fees, and so on. Most likely thousands of dollars per month.
Think about where that money comes from. Does she have a high-paying job? If so, that's something else your relationship would have to be scheduled around.
Maybe she makes money from sessions / OF. So that's a reality that exists in your relationship. Maybe you're fine with that, and no judgment at all whether you are or not, but you need to be aware.
Or maybe she's looking for a sugar daddy (i.e. you) to finance her lifestyle. No judgment if that's what you're looking for, but I see that as a transactional relationship, perhaps not that much different from paying for sessions (and likely cheaper in the long term).
So there's that. But wait, that's not even the biggest issue.
I can understand people having expensive, expansive, hobbies or lifestyles. If somebody wants to spend their hard-earned money on things they love, advancing themselves, and so on, I respect the hell out of that. It might be a difficult lifestyle to be in a relationship with somebody like that, but I respect the shit out of them for doing their thing.
That's where social media comes in. This isn't going to be true of all FBBs, for sure, but is for the ones you're most likely to be exposed to online. And that's how much of their life and their sense of self-worth revolves around social media. Everyplace you go they'll constantly be looking for the perfect picture for instagram, changing multiple outfits per night, pictures of this, pictures of that, and then spending hours kvetching about how many likes this post got, or who commented this or that, and whatever other online drama consumes their consciousness (and, by extension, yours as their partner).
Now that's something I have a really hard time dealing with. Again, there are plenty of FBBs who wouldn't fall into that category, but a lot definitely would.
Maybe the reality of being in a relationship with a world-class FBB isn't quite what you think it is. Maybe you're fine with all of those things, but maybe you're not. The grass isn't always greener.
At the end of the day, if all you really have is a sexual fetish, then sessions might be an outlet for that. (I know you don't think highly of that, but it might not be all that much different from a transactional relationship, or one where your gf is regularly doing sessions with other guys or showing her cooter online to strangers for money.)
Or just browse GWM and concentrate on the good parts of the fantasy, while you live your best life on the outside.
So, practical advice, combining the above two.
You've got plenty of time. No need to rush into anything.
If you don't have a lot of experience with relationships or dating, spend some time building that up. If necessary, don't date at all for now. Just meet people. Expand your social circle. Guys, girls, older people, and so on. Pick up a new hobby or two, join a club. You'll meet people that way, and if necessary you can develop your social skills.
Do interesting stuff. Go places. Read books. Do cool things (and "cool" doesn't have to mean "expensive"). That will make you a more interesting - and attractive - person, although you shouldn't do those things for dating purposes.
Take care of your physical and mental health. You don't have to be perfect, but you'll find that as you get older your stock will rise relative to those around you who don't take care of themselves. Women will gravitate toward that.
Now, as far as physical attributes of women, if you're really into athletic, buff women...
It's one thing to look at pictures online. But when you meet somebody in person, it just hits different. Even a small amount of muscle looks way more impressive when you see it in real life. Somebody whose pictures would get deleted from this site for "Not enough visible muscularity" can still look damn good when they're standing in front of you. And if you have something in common with them, they look even better still. I don't know how to explain it, but it's a thing.
My most recent ex-gf was fairly fit. Certainly not of the caliber of the women on this site. But when she would fix her hair she had some visible definition on her arms. No visible abs (although she said she had them for a while when she was younger and doing multiple spin classes per week... something that she couldn't maintain with all the other stuff going on in her life). But if I put my hand on her stomach and got her to laugh, I could feel her abs. Man, was that an instant trip to Bonerville. She wasn't super strong (I could beat her at pretty much anything) but she was strong enough to give me a little competition. I'd actually have to put some effort in (unlike most of my previous gfs). That was a turn-on for me, although I don't think she quite understood. (Very long story there...)
Anyway, my point is that if you're looking for athletic women, you should broaden your horizons. Join a more boutique gym with a more social aspect to it (like Crossfit). Maybe rock climbing, martial arts, or some other athletic activity.
To repeat: DO NOT do this to meet women. Do this because it's something you enjoy. And don't instantly creep on the women. Talk to the guys. Talk to the older people. Talk to the women you don't find attractive. Be sociable. At the very least you'll make some new friends, and develop your social skills. And while you're doing all of this, you can chat up some of the attractive women too. Maybe something happens, maybe it doesn't. At worst, you're having a good time and making new friends.
No, you're probably not going to meet many people whose pics could be on GWM, but you'll meet a lot of athletic, shapely people. And when you meet them in person, and have things in common with them, it just hits different.
Plus, even if they're athletic, even muscular, it's likely to be at a more "socially acceptable" level that won't get you the comments from your "friends" or family. (Again, as an older guy, I assure you things are way different than they were 20-25 years ago. Women are walking around now with a level of muscle that would have drawn stares - in a bad way - back in the 90's or early 2000's. Now it's quite acceptable, and even mainstream guys find them hot. You're living in the golden age, my friend...)
I wish I wasn't attracted to female muscle. Very few people in my life know about it. And for my friends who I have told, they call me a f@g and g@y (jokingly but also hurtfully), even though I've only ever been attracted to women. My family is ultra conservative, I know they want me to marry a conventionally sized woman. On multiple occassions that a muscular woman has popped up on TV they have gagged and said they were gross. It's just so tough living like this when you know FBBs are out of your league unless you somehow commit to bodybuilding yourself (I lift, but not nearly at the same level) or pay for a session (which I think is pathetic).