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Embrace this part of you that is attracted to female muscles. Do not sweep it under the rug as the expression goes. It is only a problem if you try to suppress it.
There's nothing wrong at all to being attracted to women with a certain aesthetic. How you cultivate this attraction, is going to be productive or harmful, depending on the approach you take.
I would encourage you to find girls/women who are into gymming. Sometimes they will change you to adopt(training) it as well. In the process there is a good chance you end up with such women that fulfill that attraction. Or at the very least you come out of it looking Jacked and healthy.
NICE! I said everything except this. I'm not always good at coming to the point. You're 100% in the right about the problems that come from suppressing it.
Some guys are very open about their fetish. Others, myself included, keep it more hidden. There's nothing wrong with it. It is a bit of an unusual fetish, but less and less it seems these days with the rise of female sports and associated physiques being more accepted. Some of us get off on it being 'wrong' or not accepted, something to be hidden or kept secret. There can be a lot of stimulation, tantalising, excitement etc... in relation to it being 'wrong', even though in fact it's a perfectly acceptable fetish. Freud wrote quite a lot on fetish. I seem to remember him saying that those who are able to realise their fetish when having sex have a much more intense and fulfilling experience. Or something to that effect. Whatever it is, whether you're open about it or want to keep it hidden, both are perfectly ok. Just be honest with yourself about it and why and go have fun with it. 👍
Hi guys, I just came to this thread, so I didn't have time to read most of the comments so sorry if I repeat what's already been said.
The way I see it, dating a muscle girl is just like normal dating. For those of you, who are only attracted to muscular girls - the obvious negative is that there is a smaller number of them. But there is a bright side. You can practice on the non-muscular girls. Because you don't feel the pressure, you will be more relaxed and you can eventually learn how to not be nervous with other girls. In fact I recommend you start talking to regular girls first. If you're awkward, you'll "ruin" it with any girl, so this will take a lot of pressure off right from the start.
Another thing is the obvious fact that literally every girl has muscles. If you get most girls to flex, chances are there is some muscle to feel. If you have a female (just a) friend, you can ask her how she feels about it, or even get her to flex for you (not to generalize, but women will help you, if you make it clear that it's just for curiosity - but you have to be good friends).
Finally I say, good luck. There are enough challenges already for us guys, but women have their skinny beauty standards too, that's preventing them from even considering working out. Make them feel that it's ok and they might surprise you.
Join a gym. Get huge. The women will approach YOU. Also, most hot women don't like to be hit on at the gym. You have to wait for a signal. Unless you are really, really big.
25 is so young. Don't fret. There are way more muscle women nowadays. Go to a bodybuilding competition. The audiences are full of them.
so wrong .. Many muscular women dont like big males. They are like any normal other women, they have different taste. you dont have to be big to meet any kind of woman, be yourself. Have a goal in your life, work for it and you will find the girl of your dream. These women like normal men, so simple. If you are in a gym, when she trains, look at her briefly and show her that you appreciate what she does. Few moments after just ask her in which division she competes and compliment her for her hardwork . Look at what comes after that
so wrong .. Many muscular women dont like big males. They are like any normal other women, they have different taste. you dont have to be big to meet any kind of woman, be yourself. Have a goal in your life, work for it and you will find the girl of your dream. These women like normal men, so simple. If you are in a gym, when she trains, look at her briefly and show her that you appreciate what she does. Few moments after just ask her in which division she competes and compliment her for her hardwork . Look at what comes after that
100%. It's always hilarious to hear the "jacked women only like jacked men" refrain here over and over. Just look at the women on this site who have pictures with their significant others, very few of those guys have impressive physiques.
But yeah, maninthehoud has the right of it - find your passion in life and pursue it. If that's bodybuilding, cool, but don't try to force yourself to do something so fucking unhealthy because you think it's a ticket to meeting women. Men will be more impressed with your body than women will. What women want to see is a confident and driven man and that might take some work on your part, but it can be done. Good luck.
At least you talk to girls, I have never been on a relationship on 28 years and I know how hard it be to start a conversation with people you dont know but never experiment what is to talk to a girl with "romantic" intentions... I will give you this advise, just hang around, more girls would notice you than many of us (no offense)...
Ironically two of the most muscular women i know had very skinny husbands
I think its the need for polarity. Masculine women like feminine men
Wowww!!!
Hi guys, writting this is quite hard for me, I am not used to open up about my feelings, but I think that sharing it with you is going to help me.
To give you some context, right now I am 25 years old. I should not complain about my life because I am thankful to have a supportive family, good friends, and in general terms, a good life. But this thing of being attracted to muscular women is something that is not allowing me to progress in life.
The regular girls do not catch my attention, it is like I am just attracted to girls with muscle. I wouldn't mind to be in a relationship with a regular girl, but I am not brave enough to open up to her and share my attraction, I feel that I am just going to be a wierdo. Also, this isn't allowing me to be 100% natural with the people around me. I feel that I am always hiding something, not being who I really am.
On the other side, I've been able to meet a few girls that I am attracted to, but if it isn't through Instagram or a social media, I am not confident enough to approach for example a girl at the gym and start chatting with her. It is like my heart starts to beat so fast and I start to have negative thoughts about that she es going to find that I am nervous or something. I don't know.
I don't want to be arrogant, but I am actually a handsome guy with a good physique and really open minded, but despite that it is like I am not confident enough to express myself to people around me. What scares me the most is to keep going through life without doing the things that I really like to do.
I am fully open to hear your opinions. Also, sorry for my english, I am learning =)
I have to say that it felt good writting it, if some of you are going through the same, it would be cool for you to express yourselves.
This sounds like a YOU problem.
> It may sound a little weird, but you can use "normal" girls for practice. Nothing to loose here since you are not interested in them. > If you think you know how it works you can approach the fitness or muscle girls..
How would you like it if a woman "flirts" with you for practice when in reality they want to go with a guy who is taller/more muscular/etc than you? Would feel shitty, right?
Don't do that. It's disrespectful as hell.
This seems like a false equivalency. It would be the rare female whose social skills are so underdeveloped that she needs to practice flirting. For normal girls with social skills considered normal for the female gender, then yes you are correct, doing this to a man would be extremely disrespectful if they lacked intent.
For men it's not the same. Playfully flirting with girls en masse is one of the best ways to get comfortable with interacting with them. However if a man knew a girl was into him, and then continued to flirt with her anyway, that would be exceptionally cruel behavior.
Hi @Localdumy, there is a lot of good advice in this thread. Everything kind of boils down to this: keep doing all the things which will build your confidence in yourself. When you are young it can be difficult when you don't have previous successes to look back on and take encouragement from. So focus on working out, eating healthy, developing your social skills, becoming excellent at your passions, and traveling the world. Be curious about everything. Surround yourself with people who have achieved what you want to achieve and learn from them.
Lots of good things will happen if you do this. I wish I had realized these truths much earlier in life. There is no telling what I might have achieved.
Embrace this part of you that is attracted to female muscles. Do not sweep it under the rug as the expression goes. It is only a problem if you try to suppress it.
There's nothing wrong at all to being attracted to women with a certain aesthetic. How you cultivate this attraction, is going to be productive or harmful, depending on the approach you take.
I would encourage you to find girls/women who are into gymming. Sometimes they will change you to adopt(training) it as well. In the process there is a good chance you end up with such women that fulfill that attraction. Or at the very least you come out of it looking Jacked and healthy.