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> > I'd try openly apologizing to her sincerely. Just say, "I'm really sorry I made you feel like I don't respect you. That wasn't my intention. You look really great, but that's no excuse for not treating you with respect." > I have found, however, that a few women are really fearful when you stare at them, likely because of some very creepy experiences in the past. Could even be Freudian in some cases.
I immediately called to apologize, but she sent me straight to voicemail. Our row of neighbors is a tight-knit bunch, and we all have each other’s cell numbers. So, I texted her my apology and basically said what you advised. I also offered to apologize in person, giving her the option to decline if she preferred. Unfortunately, she didn’t respond and has been avoiding me since.
I want to respect her space, especially since she’s an introvert. Given that the situation is still fresh, I think it’s best to give her some time and space. I do plan to apologize in person eventually because we’re still neighbors, and we often host gatherings like fire pits, BBQs, etc.
Plus, she’s showing no signs of slowing down her IFBB career, so it’s better—and more mature—to acknowledge what happened and move on. We can still be neighborly. I just need to be more respectful and mindful of her boundaries.
Also, a couple of months ago, I found a video by Tina Wilson that made me feel much better about the whole situation and provided me with some grace. I’m human and have desires, IFBB pros are extremely sexy, and I made mistakes.
Next time try apologizing while you're not holding your ck.**
(NB. Jokes mate. Let it go if it gets too awkward. Like a wild horse, be happy in your own company at the gym. She may re-assess you and realize that you're alright. Good luck.)
I think this is the cringiest thread on this forum
And the worst part is it doesn't have to be.
@slimpat7:
I´m sure she´ll get over it. It is not a good personal trait to just snap out of the blue more or less, so that´s on her. What did she say then?
With all due respect, I think it's in pretty bad form to tell a woman who feels creeped out to "get over it." Unfortunately, stuff like that is something that pretty much every woman has had to deal with at some point in their lives. The first time my fiancee was catcalled and sexually harassed was when she was walking to school. She was 12 years old.
I'm very glad that he shared his experience because I think it's something we all need to realize. Yes, we are all into muscular women, and there is nothing wrong with that, but we have to be mindful towards are attractions and conduct ourselves properly when we see them IRL. None of know except for him and her know the exact details that went down, but it is a cautionary tale that at the end of the day, these are still human beings. I also think the posts that are like "apologize again!" are completely missing the point. The ship has sailed, all he can do is move on.
I've been to Vegas for Olympia weekend a handful of times, and always see a few at the Expo or just around the strip over the course of the weekend. The first time was (I think) 2009, and I was in front of one of the hotels waiting in line for a taxi. In front of me in line was Kim Perez. She was absurdly jacked.
I've seen Katie Lee a few times, Kristy Hawkins, and others.....but I was most blown away by Kim.
I've been to Vegas for Olympia weekend a handful of times, and always see a few at the Expo or just around the strip over the course of the weekend. The first time was (I think) 2009, and I was in front of one of the hotels waiting in line for a taxi. In front of me in line was Kim Perez. She was absurdly jacked.
I've seen Katie Lee a few times, Kristy Hawkins, and others.....but I was most blown away by Kim.
I thought we were talking away from the gym. My list is enormous having been to the old WSE strength shows, the NY Muscle Club as a worker and been in gyms for 30 years from 1985-2015 where many top fbbs came in.
I would not call this cringe. Just reality. I found the girls were as different in person as any other group of people. The common thread was the lifestyle and sport. They were shy in some cases. Others were very outgoing. It was not hard to read or to make friends with them. Most had a very negative view of fans to be honest. Some were into the whole schmoe thing. I worked the cash and security part at the NYMC and the girls would tell you lots of things. I should keep most to myself. Some hated other fbbs. Others hated cameras and fans. Some had protective orders. Most were nice. You had to read the person like any other job in sales. Some girls did not want fans around except to look and others were super friendly. They are just regular people with a lifestyle as the guy said.
I would not worry about that woman's thoughts so much. The more you harp on it....the worse it makes it. I would let her make the next move and act like she is not there next time if you do see her. A girl will smile or be ok with you if she catches you looking (not glaring) and might even smile back. If you looked into her window, then it is a different story or if you stared constantly.
@Gatsby28:
With all due respect, I think it's in pretty bad form to tell a woman who feels creeped out to "get over it." Unfortunately, stuff like that is something that pretty much every woman has had to deal with at some point in their lives. The first time my fiancee was catcalled and sexually harassed was when she was walking to school. She was 12 years old.
Ehmm, what are you talking about? I have not said that he should tell her to get over it. I just said that she´ll probably get over it soon.
I'm very glad that he shared his experience because I think it's something we all need to realize. Yes, we are all into muscular women, and there is nothing wrong with that, but we have to be mindful towards are attractions and conduct ourselves properly when we see them IRL. None of know except for him and her know the exact details that went down, but it is a cautionary tale that at the end of the day, these are still human beings. I also think the posts that are like "apologize again!" are completely missing the point. The ship has sailed, all he can do is move on.
Yeah, agree on that though. Just let her be.
@zig563:
I worked the cash and security part at the NYMC and the girls would tell you lots of things. I should keep most to myself.
No, you should not! :) It would be great to hear some of those stories. You can keep them anonymous of course.
@zig563 You say some girls hated their fans but others didn’t mind them or were into them. Can you tell us more about the girls who either hated or enjoyed this pastime? Why did the haters keep doing sessions? What types of women enjoyed their work and why?
I'd love to, but they shared that just with me. They did not make a public statement. It was some girls who made money from the schmoe community in wrestling. That I can tell you. The haters did sessions or videos for the payday. The sport pays little on it's own. It is expensive to partake in as well. Some of the session girls were very into it. Others....not so much.
@zig563:
No, you should not! :) It would be great to hear some of those stories. You can keep them anonymous of course.
Personal talk, so not a great idea for me to share. I don't believe in spreading gossip. Is it really a news flash? Some girls did not even like the guys they did shoots with. They did it for the money in some cases. Some other fbbs were completely comfortable around fans. I would say the majority approached fans with caution but would give back what they got. That was the era when everyone took photos without phones. It was interesting what you would see at the WSE strength show as well. Lots of random name women would show. I was watching the strength show in 96 or 97 and Sharon Marvel sits down next to me. She was in long clothes, but near her biggest. She eventually moved up front with the WPW crowd. RIP Sharon.
I saw a huge woman called abi in the uk about ten years, she was 6’4 and probably over 250 pounds. I asked her if she was strong and she picked me up with one arm and just laughed ,I’m about same size as the guy in the picture
and she must have been the same size as the lady to the left of the guy in the picture
In August 2007 I saw a huge blonde withong rasta hair in a flight from San Francisco to NYC.
I first faced her at the shops pre-boarding. Was waiting in line to pay for something behind a ~6ft tall wide, muscular with large 3d shoulders person. Was 100% sure it's a guy (didn't see the face). Only when she started talking with the cashier I realized it's a woman. And what a woman.
She happened to come to my gate after that and I got even more excited. As I was seating 10 rows behind her, all flight long I was waiting for her to go to the toilet.
I still to date could never find her name. She was very tall and for years I thought that + her rasta blond hair would be unique enough to identify her but I never could.
She was the ultimate alpha woman!
A woman at the grocery store in the 90's who actually had another guy and his 2 sons following her. She was an unknown. I've seen many of the top girls and they are as advertised. This girl was a blonde with amazing lats and shoulders giving her an awesome V build that stood out to all. The World Gym was next door so I'm guessing maybe she came from there. She was about 5-8 and 190 or so. The other man had his 2 sons follow her out of the store. He never talked to her as she looked to be in a hurry with one item and cutting up in line. She may have known someone. She got up next to the store manager who was a 6-2 model type looking girl who was very thin. I was checking out the contrast as she was right at the end of the express line which was long. It ended fast. I was hoping the manager was going to say she cut the line, but no such luck. I was right behind her and she went from 10 deep up to #2 and then talked to a guy outside for a few minutes who must have been the line cut invitee. She was just above some bodybuilder I saw who may have been bigger but in gym settings or at a softball tourney. That girl left before we played them. It was a co-ed and she was a monster. I saw her earlier. We beat them in the final. They had some huge guys, but she was the only muscled girl and left. I recall about 5-6 and 175-180 with a nice look. Brown hair. She was 2nd place. That was the same gym Rene Marven worked out at.