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Iris Kyle (who won more Ms. Olympia titles than anyone else) walked by my seat at a contest. Christine Envall was in the lobby at another contest. I worked out next to Nikki Fuller. I've been to quite a few pro shows in the U.S. and have met 4 bodybuilding or physique competitors.
What was your impression of them? Were they bigger than you expected?
Not an example of "muscular" women but I was at a WNBA meet and greet and met some players and holeeeee shit are they tall. Like, obviously they're tall if they're playing pro basketball but seeing them up close in person is a hell of an experience.
That’s so cool, I love meeting these tall well built basketball and volleyball girls
Tara Suzanne used to live in my neighborhood. She would always walk around the high school behind the neighborhood and any time I saw her I would run to my bike ride behind her lol. My heart would always go crazy when I seen her. I was like 10-12 and she was definitely the definitive factor / major influence for my love for muscular women. It’s like doing a drug for the first time, ever since I’ve seen her I’ve been chasing that felling with female bodybuilders.
I'd say for me, it was Katie Lee. I saw her at Regan National airport in DC. The entire time she was within my view (from a distance), she was talking on her phone. She was wearing a short sleeve shirt, but the sleeves were so bunched up that it almost looked like a sleeveless shirt - something similar to this pic. I couldn't believe the size of her biceps in person.
Late night at a Walmart I think I saw Sherry Smith. I'm not one hundred percent certain because I only got a clear look from the side. She was wearing a baggy t-shirt that couldn't hide her ripped body. I only think it was her because I knew she lived in the same city and her profile matched up with her perfectly.
A moment I will forever regret was a time when my co-workers went out to a restaurant for lunch and I stayed behind because I was too busy. When they returned one of them told me about how they were seated next to a table that had the biggest beast of a woman they ever saw. I didn't make much of it until he said she was "huge and ripped." I asked what she looked like and the way he described her immediately had me thinking of one FBB. Lisa Aukland. Who I knew lived in the same city at the time. She would've been the biggest and I will never live down that missed opportunity.
if it was really LIsa i would regret it for a lifetime bro! She is my alltime favourite
I literally live 4 doors down from IFBB bodybuilder Cara Baruth. We used to go to same gym too.
Truly the biggest woman I’ve ever seen. A true introvert and the nicest person you could ever meet. Love seeing her take daily walks. By the way, do all bodybuilders (women and men) walk so stiff? She certainly does! Anyway, like all Fbb she’s ripped in competition, but in off season she is extremely bulky. Check her out.
Life Lesson Alert Anyway, I used to stare at her… man gaze honestly, and I got caught. 😖😖😖 Turns out she didn’t like it. Go figure. I apologized to her, but she didn’t acknowledge it and now avoids me. I think she’s put me in the creep/stalker category now because we’ve been neighbors for years. It sucks. This unfortunate situation aside, I’m glad she caught me because it really snapped me into shape. I got serious and made some life-changing decisions: I stopped looking at porn, reduced my social media usage, and placed limits or completely blocked sites like GWM or saradas. I’m obvious still on here and enjoying the content, but I needed the detox nonetheless. In short, it’s AWESOME that we share this attraction guys (and ladies), but we have to ABSOLUTELY remember these are real people with real lives. What we do may seem harmless, but it has consequences. Our internet usage is one thing, but be wary of letting it boil over into your real life. My mistakes messed up a good neighborly relationship and, more importantly, made a woman feel insecure in her own neighborhood. Yes. These women compete on stage in bikinis and expect the stares. Outside of this, they have normal lives outside of the sport and are absolutely aware when you’re staring at them. Some may like it, not care, or have calloused themselves to it, but there are others like Cara who are truly affected by it. Make sure we treat these ladies with the respect they deserve and not ogle please.
I literally live 4 doors down from IFBB bodybuilder Cara Baruth. We used to go to same gym too.
Truly the biggest woman I’ve ever seen. A true introvert and the nicest person you could ever meet. Love seeing her take daily walks. By the way, do all bodybuilders (women and men) walk so stiff? She certainly does! Anyway, like all Fbb she’s ripped in competition, but in off season she is extremely bulky. Check her out.
Life Lesson Alert Anyway, I used to stare at her… man gaze honestly, and I got caught. 😖😖😖 Turns out she didn’t like it. Go figure. I apologized to her, but she didn’t acknowledge it and now avoids me. I think she’s put me in the creep/stalker category now because we’ve been neighbors for years. It sucks. This unfortunate situation aside, I’m glad she caught me because it really snapped me into shape. I got serious and made some life-changing decisions: I stopped looking at porn, reduced my social media usage, and placed limits or completely blocked sites like GWM or saradas. I’m obvious still on here and enjoying the content, but I needed the detox nonetheless. In short, it’s AWESOME that we share this attraction guys (and ladies), but we have to ABSOLUTELY remember these are real people with real lives. What we do may seem harmless, but it has consequences. Our internet usage is one thing, but be wary of letting it boil over into your real life. My mistakes messed up a good neighborly relationship and, more importantly, made a woman feel insecure in her own neighborhood. Yes. These women compete on stage in bikinis and expect the stares. Outside of this, they have normal lives outside of the sport and are absolutely aware when you’re staring at them. Some may like it, not care, or have calloused themselves to it, but there are others like Cara who are truly affected by it. Make sure we treat these ladies with the respect they deserve and not ogle please.
I’d have to assume there was more than just staring? Cuz as a bodybuilder she definitely gets lots of stares. Was it like staring and looking into her window or anything like that? Following her maybe? Cuz if she’s just walking and you’re outside, you take a look like any guy would, and like wave or whatever, say hi…no way is she gonna think that much of it.
I literally live 4 doors down from IFBB bodybuilder Cara Baruth. We used to go to same gym too.
Truly the biggest woman I’ve ever seen. A true introvert and the nicest person you could ever meet. Love seeing her take daily walks. By the way, do all bodybuilders (women and men) walk so stiff? She certainly does! Anyway, like all Fbb she’s ripped in competition, but in off season she is extremely bulky. Check her out.
Life Lesson Alert Anyway, I used to stare at her… man gaze honestly, and I got caught. 😖😖😖 Turns out she didn’t like it. Go figure. I apologized to her, but she didn’t acknowledge it and now avoids me. I think she’s put me in the creep/stalker category now because we’ve been neighbors for years. It sucks. This unfortunate situation aside, I’m glad she caught me because it really snapped me into shape. I got serious and made some life-changing decisions: I stopped looking at porn, reduced my social media usage, and placed limits or completely blocked sites like GWM or saradas. I’m obvious still on here and enjoying the content, but I needed the detox nonetheless. In short, it’s AWESOME that we share this attraction guys (and ladies), but we have to ABSOLUTELY remember these are real people with real lives. What we do may seem harmless, but it has consequences. Our internet usage is one thing, but be wary of letting it boil over into your real life. My mistakes messed up a good neighborly relationship and, more importantly, made a woman feel insecure in her own neighborhood. Yes. These women compete on stage in bikinis and expect the stares. Outside of this, they have normal lives outside of the sport and are absolutely aware when you’re staring at them. Some may like it, not care, or have calloused themselves to it, but there are others like Cara who are truly affected by it. Make sure we treat these ladies with the respect they deserve and not ogle please.
I'd try openly apologizing to her sincerely. Just say, "I'm really sorry I made you feel like I don't respect you. That wasn't my intention. You look really great, but that's no excuse for not treating you with respect." I have found, however, that a few women are really fearful when you stare at them, likely because of some very creepy experiences in the past. Could even be Freudian in some cases.
About 15 years ago, I was at an airport and was walking past a gate, when all of a sudden Marnie Power deplaned. She was was wearing a tank top, and other passersby audibly gasped when they saw her. I'm sure I did too. She wasn't totally cut, but was just huge. (Look up some of her old pix.) Weirdly, returning from that same trip I was on a plane with Joanne Lee. This must have been after she retired from FBB, but heads turned to check her out even though she wasn't as big or in shape as she used to be.
I also was on the beach in Santa Monica on a trip, and Helle Trevino walked by. She was cut and HUGE. Holding her phone the whole time, which made her bicep flexed. It was memorable. Probably smaller than Marnie Power, but was easily the most muscular person on the beach that day.
I literally live 4 doors down from IFBB bodybuilder Cara Baruth. We used to go to same gym too.
Truly the biggest woman I’ve ever seen. A true introvert and the nicest person you could ever meet. Love seeing her take daily walks. By the way, do all bodybuilders (women and men) walk so stiff? She certainly does! Anyway, like all Fbb she’s ripped in competition, but in off season she is extremely bulky. Check her out.
Life Lesson Alert Anyway, I used to stare at her… man gaze honestly, and I got caught. 😖😖😖 Turns out she didn’t like it. Go figure. I apologized to her, but she didn’t acknowledge it and now avoids me. I think she’s put me in the creep/stalker category now because we’ve been neighbors for years. It sucks. This unfortunate situation aside, I’m glad she caught me because it really snapped me into shape. I got serious and made some life-changing decisions: I stopped looking at porn, reduced my social media usage, and placed limits or completely blocked sites like GWM or saradas. I’m obvious still on here and enjoying the content, but I needed the detox nonetheless. In short, it’s AWESOME that we share this attraction guys (and ladies), but we have to ABSOLUTELY remember these are real people with real lives. What we do may seem harmless, but it has consequences. Our internet usage is one thing, but be wary of letting it boil over into your real life. My mistakes messed up a good neighborly relationship and, more importantly, made a woman feel insecure in her own neighborhood. Yes. These women compete on stage in bikinis and expect the stares. Outside of this, they have normal lives outside of the sport and are absolutely aware when you’re staring at them. Some may like it, not care, or have calloused themselves to it, but there are others like Cara who are truly affected by it. Make sure we treat these ladies with the respect they deserve and not ogle please.
OK personally before I had access to porn I would stare at a lot of decent looking women all the time until they told me to stop. but these days I don't do that often because these women don't look great enough to risk it compared to the ones that I see online. but maybe it's just because I am older now and I was so young that the only reason I didn't get in trouble was because they didn't want to be considered a pedo or maybe society did change. but it's really risky you never know how they will react when they notice you. sometimes they ignore you in rare cases they will even like it and start to flirt. but often they hate it and will think you are a rapist. and in the worst case they get their boyfriend to beat you up or call the cops since it's illegal in some countries like the uk. it's dumb but that is society for you. I had moments were I tought a woman was trying to seduce me but I didn't say anything because I was not sure and if I was wrong I would be in big trouble' so I just have to pretend to be asexual until they downright tell me what they want. but most women don't do that because of weird obsolete traditions that don't take modern society into account
I saw Caroline Krakower once in a situation where it turned out be OK to ask her to flex. She was in near competition shape. And as a result she loved showing off! Never had such a beautiful and exciting moment before in my life. She is short in stature but blew me away with the density and size of her muscles. Pity the fool who decides to mess with her when she is in winter clothing and looks much smaller than she really is.
She is really good people. We've remained connected via Facebook and because by chance her then guy friend worked at a gym near my home.
I’d have to assume there was more than just staring? Cuz as a bodybuilder she definitely gets lots of stares. Was it like staring and looking into her window or anything like that? Following her maybe? Cuz if she’s just walking and you’re outside, you take a look like any guy would, and like wave or whatever, say hi…no way is she gonna think that much of it.
Your response is understandable. One could assume there was more than just staring, but that’s not the case. If I had to psychoanalyze the situation, here’s my take:
Everyone who has posted here, I’m sure, is a great person who would never intentionally hurt anyone. However, we all share a common thread of appreciating what we see in real life. Ultimately, though, we’re objectifying someone’s body for our pleasure. That’s the nature of this thread. I have no problem with that within this context, but it’s outside of this context where the problem arises.
I basically live next door to this woman. I’m not seeing her in a grocery store, a gym, or an airport—I see her almost every other day. If some guy were taking a ‘glance’ at me every other day, I’d get annoyed too. Another perspective is to compare it to ‘cat-calling.’ No woman wants or is okay with that, no matter how her body looks. Unfortunately, I didn’t realize the cumulative effect on her because I was self-absorbed. Also, the fact that she’s a bodybuilder doesn’t make it okay. On stage, sure—but that’s not the case here.
As for her drastic response, that’s more on her. I don’t know what changed in her life to induce such a reaction, or if something else triggered it, coinciding with our day-to-day interactions. It’s unfortunate, really. I’m genuinely sorry, and I do find muscular women attractive. My proximity is what makes this situation atypical, except perhaps for the guy who dated a lady or two. I shared my personal experience because this is a community of people who understands my perspective, especially in this thread. I hope me posting helps someone feel less isolated or helps prevent the type of reaction I received, or worse.
***Thanks for the encouraging posts and messages everyone. I saw the “cringy” posts and originally took my posts down. However, I’m sure there are numerous opinions of our community as a whole and won’t take personal offense to those posts.
Everyone, just keep on living, stay respectful, and grow tough skin. ***👍🏾
@slimpat7:
I´m sure she´ll get over it. It is not a good personal trait to just snap out of the blue more or less, so that´s on her. What did she say then?
I'd try openly apologizing to her sincerely. Just say, "I'm really sorry I made you feel like I don't respect you. That wasn't my intention. You look really great, but that's no excuse for not treating you with respect." I have found, however, that a few women are really fearful when you stare at them, likely because of some very creepy experiences in the past. Could even be Freudian in some cases.
I immediately called to apologize, but she sent me straight to voicemail. Our row of neighbors is a tight-knit bunch, and we all have each other’s cell numbers. So, I texted her my apology and basically said what you advised. I also offered to apologize in person, giving her the option to decline if she preferred. Unfortunately, she didn’t respond and has been avoiding me since.
I want to respect her space, especially since she’s an introvert. Given that the situation is still fresh, I think it’s best to give her some time and space. I do plan to apologize in person eventually because we’re still neighbors, and we often host gatherings like fire pits, BBQs, etc.
Plus, she’s showing no signs of slowing down her IFBB career, so it’s better—and more mature—to acknowledge what happened and move on. We can still be neighborly. I just need to be more respectful and mindful of her boundaries.
Also, a couple of months ago, I found a video by Tina Wilson that made me feel much better about the whole situation and provided me with some grace. I’m human and have desires, IFBB pros are extremely sexy, and I made mistakes.
@slimpat7:
I´m sure she´ll get over it. It is not a good personal trait to just snap out of the blue more or less, so that´s on her. What did she say then?
Thanks man. She’s still avoiding me, but it’s been a couple of months. I still see her walking her dog and such. Plus we both WFH and are around a lot. One of these days I’ll reach out and try to apologize in person again. This thread kinda gave me the gumption to follow up on this and see how things feeling these days.
Thanks for all of the positive thoughts folks. There’s a lot of good folks here. I’m happy we have this safe space to express ourselves. Also I appreciate the moderators for monitoring things and keeping things orderly.
Thanks man. She’s still avoiding me, but it’s been a couple of months. I still see her walking her dog and such. Plus we both WFH and are around a lot. One of these days I’ll reach out and try to apologize in person again. This thread kinda gave me the gumption to follow up on this and see how things feeling these days.
Thanks for all of the positive thoughts folks. There’s a lot of good folks here. I’m happy we have this safe space to express ourselves. Also I appreciate the moderators for monitoring things and keeping things orderly.
I don't recommend the further apology attempt as much as it comes from a good place with you. She reacted to you, you showed remorse. Clearly she isn't avoiding you in group settings when that could be the fall-out. Accept that and if nothing ever improves with the overall sitation,you tried and you recognize you went overboard. Posting about it here takes guts especially when the kneejerk replies from some are you have to have been a creep/stalker. Treat the experience, as you have done, as a hugely valuable life lesson.
Nobody can compete with 6’8 300 pound megan Craig