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I have problems attracting any women but any who I remember a gym friend telling me that even if you do find a fbb she will be focused on herself and her training before she has focus on you.
Like a few mentioned don't set your bar into outer space come back to Earth! Also agreed with Gatsby on everything.
Some of y’all need to lower your expectations in what you want to find.
The percentage of women that truly workout is low.
Only a percentage of those are bodybuilders.
A small percentage of those date outside of bodybuilding circles.
Depending on where you are you might have to be content with wome that go to the gym 3-4 times a week to lift weights
Yup, or settle for a girl who's not a bodybuilder or model, but is stronger than average or has some visible biceps or calf muscles and is flattered or amused by how addicted you are to them. There are WAY more girls like that out there than you'd imagine. You're probably not getting Slava Galagan or Julia Vins. But you maybe you can get with that young MILF you keep running into a Starbucks with the muscular calves or that supermarket cashier who's toned biceps you noticed as she lifted the gallon of milk you bought. Use your imagination.
It kind of depends on whether you lean towards sthenolagnia (you like muscles) or cratophilia (you like strength) or some combination of the two. I think most of us like both, but to varying degrees. I think I like them about equally, but if you make me choose between the lean girl who has defined muscles but isn't that strong or the girl with a little extra baby fat and not super visible biceps who is as strong as an ox, I'll take the strong girl.
Houston has had a ton of FBBs over the past 20 years or so. I have personally seen Melissa Dettwiller, Gina Davis, Nat Rochner, and Macey Toney around town in that time, so they are around. Now, meeting them and trying to date them is a different matter. Most want someone who is as into the physique industry as they are. I've lifted since I started playing jr high football, so I'm immersed in training and truly love it, but I have never been in physique sports and never have used a bit of gear. That excludes me pretty much from that world. The one of them I met was Gina Davis, though, and she was very nice and seemed very nice and open to meeting men in general.
Other than that, just hit hardcore gyms in larger towns and fitness expos. Or become a photog. They meet and befriend more muscular women than anyone. Show promoters do very well, too. JM Manion had bikini and figure girls all around him, even though he was never to be mistaken for Brad Pitt.
Well I'm joining q criss fit class but still not seeing fbbs...God my idea gal is a big fitness beauty...grant me one oh dear God...https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/1870214/
Well I'm joining q criss fit class but still not seeing fbbs...God my idea gal is a big fitness beauty...grant me one oh dear God...https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/1870214/
Well of course you’re not seeing fbbs at a CrossFit gym: they’re not going to do CrossFit training if they’re a bodybuilder. You will find muscular, fit women, though. Do you have to specifically go out with a bodybuilder, or would a “regular” muscular woman do?
Look man, I know what I’m about to say is kind gauche, but your obsession with finding a fbb to date sounds unhealthy. We all have a fetish for buff women, and many of us would love to get with one romantically, but you seem to make that a primary objective over everything else. And when you’re that hyper fixated, it acts as a woman-repellant. Just be cool, get into fitness, network with people and make friends, and by doing that, you’ll have the best chance at getting with a buff woman. There are far more to women than just their muscles, but if that’s all you care about, you’re going to find yourself very, very lonely.
Honestly, if this obsession is hurting you mentally, it wouldn’t hurt to get help and find someone to talk to. And I may just be an internet stranger, but I really hope that you do.
I dunno if dating a female bodybuilder is a good idea. Sounds like it's way too much of a hassle and pain in the ass for normal dudes who don't really have a grasp of the bodybuilding culture and mentality. For me, it's purely a sexual fantasy. Don't get me wrong. I would kill to get a chance with somebody like Shannon Seeley or Rene Marven in bed. But I wouldn't date them.
Well I'm joining q criss fit class but still not seeing fbbs...God my idea gal is a big fitness beauty...grant me one oh dear God...https://www.girlswithmuscle.com/1870214/
Don't know how to say this but I don't think you're gonna find a girl built like this on Crossfit much less any fbbs lol (though Crossfit girls are indeed very muscular). Idk man, either way it's good that you've joined a gym but I think you need to start focusing on yourself more and please for the love of god, don't immediately start hitting up on all the women immediately or it's not gonna go as well as you think.
well im considering cross fit, but in general I've never seen any fbbs in UK...I love her building, smaller breasted but athletic..
You can find FBBs at fitness expos and bodybuilding shows, especially the Olympia and Wings of Strength shows or even the local shows.
You're continuing to circle the wagon. I highly doubt you'll ever join a CF gym, and are content to complaining on the internet about how hard it is to find fbbs.
I live in the UK like HeartOfSteel, and although it's a much smaller place than the US, you still have a decent chance to stumble into one, especially in London. That includes 24h commercial gyms but I must reckon that that could be easy to miss them because they may choose quieter and less busy times.
As BlackSabbath1989 said just above, just attend fitness expos, there are usually affordable. In the UK the biggest right now is the Arnold Sports Festival held in Birmingham, which should take place later this year around September. If you can't wait until then, try to go to one of those local/regional contests. They're always an opportunity to have a nice chat with people in the attendance, whether they're BBers or not.
> This thread pops up every week. > > Hate to sound like broken record but Whole Foods is your best bet outside the gym and fitness expos.
I’ve been to Whole Foods a couple times, and each time I’m there I’m like the only non-white dude inside lol.
Whole foods,is that like q super Market in USA, I'm in UK, I love big athletic girls...but man I found none...and I'm just shocked I wish I lived in US..
Also I did attend look I to local Cross fit gyms, but shocked at how expensive they are...4 times the amount of my gym...saw no girls either...but will try the fitness Expo in Birmingham..
So how does one win the heart of an fbb? What is a good chat up line? I'm assuming they don't give out their number to just anyone lol?
Easiest question in the world to answer. Gyms and local sporting (e.g. CrossFit) events.
I think one thing worth mentioning is that for some people this is not even a sexual fantasy, a thing between two adults and two individuals. But some kind of presexual thing used to deny separateness and individuality, where orgasm is used to confirm that the denial has been successful. It is not a desire to be known by somebody as somebody, but a desire to be swallowed up by somebody. He is not looking for a woman. He is looking for someone to mentally obliterate him. This is why questions like "why would she want to be with you" or "what kind of person are you" are actually meaningless and counterintuitive to him.
Lol yeah.
I think it’s clear that at least one person here has never and will never have even a single date with a muscular woman.
I’ve dated two of them. One fitness competitor and one nearly pro BB’er. It helps to:
1) treat them like literally any other kind of woman. They don’t want to be fetishized for just their body.
2) be into fitness yourself. It’s a huge lifestyle choice for them. OF COURSE they’d like a partner who’s into it too.
3) be funny, charming, and supportive. Being well off and successful helps a lot too.
4) go to where they hang out. Newsflash: it’s usually a gym or fitness center.
Note that this list would work for girls into fencing, girls into paintball, girls into Bible study, girls into wiccan magic… you name it. Muscular women are just like other women. Have shared hobbies and interests and meet partners at the place where people engage in those.
Lol yeah.
I think it’s clear that at least one person here has never and will never have even a single date with a muscular woman.
I’ve dated two of them. One fitness competitor and one nearly pro BB’er. It helps to:
1) treat them like literally any other kind of woman. They don’t want to be fetishized for just their body.
2) be into fitness yourself. It’s a huge lifestyle choice for them. OF COURSE they’d like a partner who’s into it too.
3) be funny, charming, and supportive. Being well off and successful helps a lot too.
4) go to where they hang out. Newsflash: it’s usually a gym or fitness center.
Note that this list would work for girls into fencing, girls into paintball, girls into Bible study, girls into wiccan magic… you name it. Muscular women are just like other women. Have shared hobbies and interests and meet partners at the place where people engage in those.
Right on!
Yea i noticed not only are fbbs hyper rare but when you do see them they are usually focused on working out and it would be super akward to interupt their workout or they are already married
that is a problem for me with finding even a non muscular girlfriend there just seem to be more guys than girls in this world there was a girl flirting with me a few years ago but she already had a boyfriend lol
so imagine how rare it is to find a fbb that is in a situation where she is not focused on working out and actually willing to talk and is also single then we are not even counting the chance that she finds you attractive that is also quite unlikely if you are not a male bodybuilder
Not A big deal if there where a lot of fbbs but you probably only get a few attempts in you entire life the opportunitys are microscopic you have a much bigger chance of winning the lottery.