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What's the psychological reason why a man might be attracted to a woman with muscles?

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Jan 20, 2023 - permalink

I have noticed that if you take a short pause from this, the moment you are ready to come back and catch a glimpse of some muscular female body, the horniness can be overwhelming. But if you take a longer break, you will get an opposite effect and will need some kind of push to rekindle the thing or flip you back into it.

Are you insane?

Jan 20, 2023 - edited Jan 20, 2023 - permalink

Are you insane?

I won't call Zarkle insane but I strongly disagree with his notion that a longer break would need a push to get back into muscular females. I have no idea if there was an actual event that got me here or if I'm just wired like this. I do know one thing. For as long as I can remember, muscular females took my breath away. They are astonishingly beautiful in different ways. I'm an old man but have always felt like I'm 18, thanks to muscular women. A non-muscular female does nothing for me and I seriously doubt that would ever change.

Jan 20, 2023 - permalink

Maybe it’s about enjoying being dominated

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Jan 20, 2023 - permalink

Makes me feel safe and protected

Jan 21, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

I won't call Zarkle insane

That's nice to hear.

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Jan 22, 2023 - permalink

Maybe it’s about enjoying being dominated

👍💪

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Jan 22, 2023 - edited Jan 22, 2023 - permalink

For me, the aesthetics come first. I like curvy women who aren't fat, and muscular women fulfill that description best -- big and curvy upper/lower body with thick, hard limbs and tight midsections.

I also find it incredibly attractive when someone's better than me at something, so if a woman is stronger than me or or has bigger muscles or more endurance than I do, then that's hot AF to me.

So, my psychological reasons are not complicated. No need for a Freudian analysis here. It's very simple.

Jan 22, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

That was a description. Now you still need an analysis.

Jan 23, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

Though people may be getting more shallow recently.

Feb 09, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

And they might desire to form pacts around pleasure and dissipation.

Feb 09, 2023 - permalink

I think the Powerpuff Girls fucked me up in the head when I was 2.

I was in elementary school when that show was airing. It was Ms. Bellum for me. She wasn't as physically strong as the main characters obviously, but her tall stature and calm, almost motherly presence/attitude (to say nothing of that sexy voice) definitely had a long term effect on me.

The only time I remember her getting physical with anyone was the fight with Sedusa.

Feb 10, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

It's bad if we are controlled, but if we're not, it can be even worse. -- Slavoj Zizek

Feb 18, 2023 - permalink

zarklephaser4: What are you even talking about? No one is interested in narcissist parents. You sound just as deranged and off topic as Slavoj Zizek.

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Feb 18, 2023 - permalink

Keep it simple to be dominated 🤩

Feb 20, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

You can never prove Zizek is off topic.

Mar 06, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

No one is interested in narcissist parents.

I believe at least someone is.

Mar 08, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

At least Sam Vaknin is.

Mar 09, 2023 - permalink

A little news flash for context: Narcissistic Youth Sexlessness: Porn and Relationships in a Dying World is a lecture by Sam Vaknin, who is a strange Israeli-born professor of psychology. I agree with about half the things he says. But he has an entire playlist on contemporary sexuality too.

Some of the highlights from this lecture are that according to studies (done on American college students as far as I know), only 31 % of men can orgasm during casual sex. And 11 % of women. In a long-term relationship, 84 % of men can reach orgasm.

After the sexual revolution ran its course, people are having less and less sex and feel less and less satisfied when they do. The reason why Tinder and such are so popular is not because they enable people to hook up. They are popular exactly because they enable people to play the sexual marketplace like a video game and never meet anyone. Not meeting anyone is not a failure but is in fact the very reason people keep using the apps. They're not dating apps, but substitute-for-dating apps.

The reason why people are drawn to casual sex is the narcissistic dynamic I described in my previous message. In other words, not only does it let you feel good, but for a passing moment it lets you imagine you are better and more desirable than you really are. But it begins to fail when you overplay your hand and expect too much of it. But on the other hand people are less and less motivated to have non-narcissistic and non-self-aggrandizing sex anymore, so it's fake or bust.

This creates inhibitions. And one statistic said that 80 % of today's college students don't even try to have sex without being drunk first to lower the inhibitions.

One relevant and interesting thing Vaknin says is that being an alpha male has nothing to do with muscles or physical strength, but life accomplishments. You run a successful ranch or a corporation you've built from the ground up, you are an alpha male. These are people who are capable of calming down a roomful of people and settling disputes without using any tricks, threats or force. But for some strange reason, Vaknin observes, all the MRA and MGTOW talk about is getting muscles so they can become losers with muscles.

The average guys get laid more than the alpha males (the real ones, not the losers with muscles), but this is because females have gone crazy and insist on dominating relationships. This makes muscles on women kind of superfluous, because they mostly want to dominate everyday emotional and social encounters, which has very little to do with sex or violence.

The big hoax is that everyone else is doing it or everyone else has it good. This is why people who do get laid keep on trying and trying. And people who don't get laid think that if only they could get laid they would become a real person and finally start getting life.

The muscular women, for those who do not habitually date one, are not a fantasy only because they can never realistically get one. They are a fantasy because even if they got one or even all of them, there's very little chance of them getting anything out of it. So for the great majority, doing it here manually is the best it is ever going to be. Not because muscular women are so unavailable. But because of the abnormal psyches of these men and because of the social and emotional realities of hookups.

Also, male versions of rape fantasies work for the same reason as the female versions: because they are fantasies. It is far harder to internalize the other into your own personality as a "good object" in the middle of real violence. When she is hurting you only in your imagination, her power and enjoyment becomes your imagined "good self". Not so in reality.

Finally, I think transgenderism is the ultimate, irrevocable attempt at internalizing a narcissistic false self. This is why it is, was and is doomed always to be a never-ending struggle.

Can you explain the last line regarding transgenderism!! I didn't understand it

Mar 09, 2023 - permalink

I absolutely LOVE watching all these responses with no Psychological training whatsoever!

Mar 09, 2023 - permalink

I absolutely LOVE watching all these responses with no Psychological training whatsoever!

The funny thing is if he had spent his time learning instead of writing these idiotic diatribes, he might actually be close to getting his certifications to be a real psychologist.

If he had done that, he'd realize that Sam Vaknin is a fraud and a bigot who isn't taken seriously by anybody with an IQ warmer than room temperature.

Mar 09, 2023 - edited Jul 13, 2024 - permalink

Why do you think I would want to do that?

Mar 10, 2023 - edited Mar 10, 2023 - permalink

I doubt anyone would say that I'm revealing an exceptionally low intelligence.

I'm saying that. You have exceptionally low intelligence - you write a lot of words, but they're vacuous and meandering. You're incapable of making any meaningful statements succinctly because you have no understanding of the things you bloviate about. You obsess over semantics and minutiae (and bore your readers to death in the process) because that's all you have. No original thoughts, no actual insight, just nonsense you've appropriated from the Jordan Peterson tier "academics" you seem to love so much.

Sam Vaknin has been caught lying about his research too many times to count. He misappropriates concepts dating to the 1920s/30s and claims they're his original thoughts (eg, the concept of narcissistic supply). He doesn't follow basic tenets of science and contradicts himself constantly. His statements about gender identity are based on discredited theories and amount to little more than his latest attempt to apply his misunderstanding of narcissism to an issue that will get him television interviews. He doesn't even have a legitimate Ph.D., it's from a diploma mill. You've been played. You would have realized this if you weren't an idiot.

Mar 10, 2023 - permalink

Simple: muscular women look damn awesome naked and most ain’t afraid to show off. And for those of us who’ve managed to bed a hardbody Amazon, there is no going back to ‘normal’ afterward. It ruins you—in the best way possible.

Mar 10, 2023 - permalink

{{{ And for those of us who’ve managed to bed a hardbody Amazon, there is no going back to ‘normal’ afterward. It ruins you—in the best way possible }}}

No trust words were ever spoken. There is nothing on earth, that compares to intimacy, with a strong, muscular woman.

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