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First of all, I'm not attracted to massively muscular women. Yes, I find some moderately built girls attractive but I mainly like girls who are a bit more muscular than bikini competitors. I also find regular girls attractive, but not as much as muscular ones.
I think I just don't like fat. Thick layer of fat under skin turns me off. I think too much fat distorts the beautiful shape of female body. But I also don't like girls whose arms and legs look like sticks. Therefore I'm attracted to toned bodies.
I also find strength and good posture very attractive, probably because both of them indicates a healthy body.
More muscles = more curves. Big arms and legs are just as eye-catching as big boobs and butts.
Big boobs signal generosity. Not that the woman would want to sleep with everyone but that once you are with her, she will be all about you.
I am not saying that there aren't selfish psychopaths running around who happen to have big boobs. Just saying that on a woman who has the right mindset, the male mind interprets boobs as a bonanza of care and comfort.
Yes.
I can only speak for myself here. Here's my backstory.
I'm 8 years old in my elementary (or primary for the non-US folks) school. There's a girl named Melissa. She's into sports. She has a pretty face, and I'm talking to her†. I forget the exact conversation; it was over 30 years ago. It had something to do with her playing sports. I remember clearly what I saw. She lifts her shirt and shows me her stomach and tells me to touch it. She has a little six-pack and an outie belly button. She tells me about the sit-ups she does. I touch it, and its really hard and tight. I remember giving it a playful punch, and her giggling. I was so young I didn't understand where to go next. That would change later on.
I'm 14, and I'm talking with a girl named Claudia. She works with her mother as a modelling instructor in the elementary schools modelling program. She had a body like a ballet dancer. All I could tell was her legs were quite muscular and she had a bubble butt despite being slim. One day her shirt goes untucked‡ and she tucks in it. I get a glimpse of her stomach, and she clearly has a six-pack. She catches me looking and smiles. We hangout together a lot.
That same year, my first official girlfriend Patty has great shoulders. I find out later she has great abs too. We dated until college. We then go our separate ways.
I meet several other girls throughout the years with muscles, and date them. Interestingly, I've never been rich, or been particularly fit. I've never been with an FBB, fitness, figure, bikini, etc. athlete. But I have dated some muscular women and find myself particularly attracted to them. I've been attracted to them ever since I've been a child.
I don't want to go into the details of every relationship, but I wanted to point out that for me, there's no psychology about it I can identify. It's tied into my sexual identity. It's been that way since childhood. It's hardwired. I'm not just a heterosexual, I'm a femyosexual. (fem: female; myo; muscle; sexual)
I've never been attracted to domineering women or ones that try to control me or tell me what to do. It's toxic to me. I like sweet, feminine personalities. I also like athletic, muscular bodies. I don't see how the two are mutually exclusive. So I don't know what the psychology of it is. I'm just attracted to particular aesthetic.
†I don't ever remember going through an "Ew! Girls!" phase and was attracted to them very young. As a boy I was criticized for hanging with the girls because the other boys were still in that phase.
‡I was at a private school at the time. We all had to have our shirts tucked in. The girls wore skirts. Very nice for me at the time.
I can only go by what I felt growing up and now, I’ve always liked bigger women. Both BBW and FBB. I think I saw a cartoon that female muscle on it, I think it was that Tiny Toons episode that had female bodybuilders on it and something must have clicked in my head.
Psychologically, I don’t know why that awakened something. I think with some people they are just born with what you like. I just happened to love big muscular women and big women in general.
From my research the foot fetish is the most common next to the fetish for muscular women so it is not uncommon
Muscles is health (at least it was before humanity invented steroids), and everybody is attracted by health.
I found this article a few years ago which offers a lot of detailed information about this topic and also includes its sources:
There’s some very nice pictures as well :)
It’s a symbol of power. Fetishes generally center around power play or an obsession with a specific object (like latex). They tend to be about being in a position of power or admiring someone in a position of power, or being at a total loss of power. Think subs/doms in bondage.
Think of any kink in the world and you can pretty easily figure out how power relates to it.
If only the responses of the brain would be measured to get a better picture of what's going on. I see a lot of different 'cases of attraction', to me it makes no sense for there to be an attraction on an evolutionary level as both providence and history have decided the male is to be the physical and social (that is, the male takes charge over a family unit in both provision of food and security) 'superior' of the female. Of course the terminology used here is mostly wrong as the family is a singular unit. Man and woman are complementary in nature, the "superiorty" question is a false dilemma. a perfect family is oriented to two goals: the successful raising of offspring and good natured worship to the Creator of all reality. Man and woman must work together to achieve these goals, we are not made to be individuals and this is evident in all fundaments of what makes us human.
None of that explains attraction to muscular women though. Others in this thread note of always having had this attraction. Artworks posted also say more than a thousand words. Perhaps for some men it just has to do with a desire to explore? After all, muscular women the likes you see on this website are rare to wife up with and find. Did someone call it thropy wife theory? As for those who are mentally consumed with the fetish stuff (you know them by the comments they leave, also, not casting shade. Just an observation.) I have no idea what this could stem from except for an extreme lack of discipline to control their urges. They might be willing to explain it better themselves though.
There is one aspect more to the trauma caused by insecure mothers and that is narcissistic mothers. In narcissistic disorders, a person gains satisfaction from using other people. A child like this has mostly seen his mother happy when she has had her way with him or has somehow managed to emotionally manipulate or use him or someone else.
This is because narcissists do not have a genuine personality and make up for the lack of it by scripting interactions and forcing others subtly or openly to play along. I do not care if I am your hero or not, but I am going to talk as if I were and you better respond accordingly.
To see a female bodybuilder admire her muscles is comforting because she clearly has a reason for happiness or satisfaction in herself and does not need to mentally consume the hapless boy to achieve it. Or in Freudian terms, a narcissistic mother uses his son as a penis substitute, but a female bodybuilder has no need for that because her muscles serve the same purpose. The relief can be put into words by saying that the boy is no more needed as a part of someone else's personality and can therefore finally be himself.
People generally do not receive abuse voluntarily. Less known is that neither do people generally give abuse voluntarily, but because they, be it parents, coaches, teachers, relatives or strangers, have found their situation unbearable and find in abusing someone an easy coping mechanism.
The wonderful thing in sadomasochism and female bodybuilders is that most of them can clearly choose between abusing and not abusing the admirer. Depending on the situation and his state of mind the admirer is then drawn towards playful, confident, angry or timid muscle women, ranging from wishing that the fbb would just take control to being plain cute and approachable without smashing him even if she could.
This is hands down the most reasonable explanation I've seen in the psychology realm. I had a similar upbringing so I can attest to that. I also worked in psychology for a decade.
My thoughts are that it’s a case of wanting what you can’t have. I tend to agree with the impressionable age, catch a glimpse of muscle etc. I’m sure I was only 8 when I saw a similar aged girls washboard stomach, but I don’t fantasize about 8 year old muscular girls, however all my life since Iv been attracted to pics, videos, etc that have that 1 in a million shredded look on a women. Now content is easier to find so visually easy to have what I want. BUT…..the ultimate fantasy is to feel those rock hard abs, day after day, and that’s where the “want what you can’t have” theory makes sense for me. Lack of an Adonis body and good looks, I’m realistic enough to know I couldn’t offer anything to my fantasy women. So all the time I’m still not satisfied, never will be. I’m sure this is why my fetish has lasted so long.
This explanation got me relieved and suddenly everything make sense. Really thank you. Amazing observation
There is one aspect more to the trauma caused by insecure mothers and that is narcissistic mothers. In narcissistic disorders, a person gains satisfaction from using other people. A child like this has mostly seen his mother happy when she has had her way with him or has somehow managed to emotionally manipulate or use him or someone else.
This is because narcissists do not have a genuine personality and make up for the lack of it by scripting interactions and forcing others subtly or openly to play along. I do not care if I am your hero or not, but I am going to talk as if I were and you better respond accordingly.
To see a female bodybuilder admire her muscles is comforting because she clearly has a reason for happiness or satisfaction in herself and does not need to mentally consume the hapless boy to achieve it. Or in Freudian terms, a narcissistic mother uses his son as a penis substitute, but a female bodybuilder has no need for that because her muscles serve the same purpose. The relief can be put into words by saying that the boy is no more needed as a part of someone else's personality and can therefore finally be himself.
People generally do not receive abuse voluntarily. Less known is that neither do people generally give abuse voluntarily, but because they, be it parents, coaches, teachers, relatives or strangers, have found their situation unbearable and find in abusing someone an easy coping mechanism.
The wonderful thing in sadomasochism and female bodybuilders is that most of them can clearly choose between abusing and not abusing the admirer. Depending on the situation and his state of mind the admirer is then drawn towards playful, confident, angry or timid muscle women, ranging from wishing that the fbb would just take control to being plain cute and approachable without smashing him even if she could.
This is an interesting topic.
I myself have always been attracted to really "superior" women.
That includes women who are unbelievably smart, like Marilyn Vos Savant with her 230 IQ, as well as women who are amazingly muscular and can lift weights I couldn't even budge.
For years I was a semi-pro rock & roll drummer, and a few years back I discovered on YouTube a good-looking then-18-year-old girl named Devikah who supposedly had only been playing drums for five years and was already covering the most complex jazz fusion pieces from memory without breaking a sweat. In my experience (and I'm no dummy, as an Ivy League grad who once scored an 800 on a French SAT test), even a minimum proficiency on drums takes at least ten years, and this girl was crushing it in five.
My mother was a champion tennis player back in the thirties and forties, so perhaps she inspired my attraction to "superior" women.
I should mention as well that I have an out-of-control boob fetish: there are no limits to how large natural breasts can grow on a girl, provided she is still thin and has a nice body; admittedly, girls built like this are extremely rare (see a famous model named Anya Zenkova -- my all-time favorite).
For many years, I had a friend -- a man some ten or fifteen years older than me -- and we both shared the same enthusiasm for extremely muscular or big-boobed women. The two of us were both "creative" guys in an ad agency -- he an art director, me a copywriter. He said he was just drawn to women with extreme bodies.
He was a tall and good-looking guy who had no trouble attracting women; I was short and therefore not very popular with women.
Well, I'm going on here, but I would be interested to know if there are other guys here who share my friend's and my interest in both women with big boobs and women with big muscles (I'm a bicep guy myself!)
As a young teen I was attracted to sexy cheerleaders with sexy big legs. These were pretty girls out of my league. I found them sexy and superior to me. When I later found FBB in the 80’s I was very attracted to their muscles and beauty. I fetish the dominating fantasy they present. I want to worship them and have them dominate me.
Damn... that's some deep doo doo there. I just know that my libido goes completely insane at the sight of a muscular female. Been enamored with muscles on girls since for as long as I can remember. I used to question it.... what's wrong with me? My friends think muscles on girls are gross. Why do I get a sudden jolt of excitement? I no longer question it. I just enjoy the ride and thankfully thousands upon thousands of females in the world think that muscles look good on them too.
Well not to toot my own horn or anything but it's pretty rare for a girl to be outright more intelligent than me.
But Women in general usually are better at having their life together and are harder working and because of that they're increasingly making more money than men.
Now we just need to get them to start lifting weights more.