Did you tell youre wife/gf that you like girls with muscle?

Hi! Did anyone tell his wife or girlfriend that he was attracted to girls with muscle? If so how did you tell? Did it change anything? Is she ready to give it a try? And flex for you when you ask when you in bed?


I really want to ask my girlfriend to flex for me when we're in bad But I don't know how she'll react

And how she respond when you tell her that?

I've not outwardly said it, however have complimented her after she's worked out which has recently made a difference in our conversation. For example I've commented initially on how toned her thighs were getting which she appreciated and took as a compliment.
Since then I've mentioned her abs and the other night in bed how toned her arms are now which illicited a bicep flex which she let me feel :)

I've dated several girls in the past and had never outright said I was into muscle, but would often (after awhile of dating) convince them to go to the gym with me. It never really worked out. I'm way to obsessive I think and it was a turn off for most. I did meet this one chick. I think I have a few stories about her on this forum in fact that when I met was already in incredible shape, but again my obsessive nature about fit woman and specifically biceps was a big turn off for her over time.

The girl I'm currently dating I was roommates with for quite some time and became close friends. She had even met the crazy fit chick I was into several times and I'm pretty sure, but have never asked knew I was into fit chicks because of her although she had no idea how deep my infatuation was. I really had never thought of her as more then friends even though I had been told many times she was crazy about me. I ended up moving away to take a job. I was kind of lonely where I was and ended up keeping in touch with her. She was already a little built from working in a warehouse for years so after a few months of talking I told her I missed her and mentioned I was into fit chicks. She must of taken that as a challenge cause she visited a few months later and was pretty built. Took me by surprise and was more attracted to her then I had thought as I had kind of kept her in the friend zone for so long.

We got a place together a little later where I had moved too and have been together as a couple for 7 years now. It's been great since we are such close friends anyways and now we have been working out together for about 7 years. She's at a point physically where I have trouble keeping my hands off her and she likes how turned on she makes me. She loves flexing, but I do think she's embarrassed sometimes about how large her arms are. She gets teased sometimes at work, but we love spending time together and that's the only thing that matters to us.

One way or another, I always ended up telling of this "appreciation" to the girls I dated - but at different levels. I was a lot shyer about this when I was younger.

My second serious relationship (I was 21) was with a girl who was really fit and strong, with nice muscles on her whole body. I took every possible opportunity to get my hands on her muscles and have her flex arms, legs, abs, back, everything, but always very carefully so I wouldn't let through to her how excited it actually made me. I never asked her to flex during sex, for instance - all I did was ask her to "hold her hair up because I loved the way she looked" only to see her biceps popping up. In retrospect, I should have been more honest about my crush on her physique, as it would only made it relationship hotter.

Fast forward some 15 years, before I married, and I had a thing with another fit, strong girl. As soon as we started to become closer I opened up to her about my crush on female muscle and strength and she was delighted. She already worked out and was pretty fit but seemed to gain motivation by my crush. In a couple of months working out heavily she developed her muscles very quickly - her thighs bulged with quads and hamstrings, her upper back was crazy muscular and her abs started to show very nicely. She had a little difficulty building her arms, even though they were pretty strong and hard, so she focused extra hard on those and would often come to me proudly showing her bicep and tricep gains. She loved playing muscle and strength games and would spontaneously flex a lot, also during sex. It was sooooo fucking great... But, of course, a girl this perfect had to be borderline insane, so half of the time we were on the brink of some relationship disaster, and eventually I had to break up.

My wife knows a pretty deal about my love of muscle and, as she was pretty strong and fit when we started dating, I "used" it a lot, but she never took initiative.

Yes, my wife knows. She's known me for 40 years, she probably knows me better than I do. It is not an obsession for me and my wife doesn't take it one way or the other.

Yes my wife knows and appreciates it with me..... I think it’s important for ones partner to know and share your fantasies It brings sex to a whole new level...

yes and she's probably as much into them as me if not more

Every woman I've ever been with has been buffed to some degree, so even if I didn't actually tell them, it always became obvious from my constant attention to their muscles. My present wife used to have solid arms, great forearms and even developed traps from her job loading freight. When she found out her muscles turned me on, she even began lifting weights, to make me go crazy!!! The sad part is, once we got married, she stopped lifting weights, eventually lost her physical job and over time, her muscles withered and died. Now I just live on these sites for my femuscle fix. @choco...if your girlfriend is muscular and seems proud of her physique, tell her how sexy her muscles are. From my experience and some of the guys in here, she will appreciate turning you on and in fact will probably turn her on by turning you on!!! Good luck.

I generally go the 'positive reinforcement' route, showing my respect/appreciation when my partners have done various activities that build strength and athleticism. I want to be supportive without coming off weird or demanding. I made an exception when my wife mentioned that her dumbass sister was giving her shit about her big calves and then I made it clear that I would be really unhappy if she got smaller calves and that her sister was a fucking idiot.

How do you guys (who have told your girlfriends/wives) put into words what you find attractive?

@scottabc...kudos to you for setting your wife straight on her sister!!! There are so many women who still curse their big calves or big arms. I'm sure some of the women I dated thought I was weird for loving their muscles but I find muscular women so incredibly hot, I couldn't help it!!!

@Burke5, it's basically the same thing that women find attractive in a muscular man. A physically developed woman is still curvy but her curves are more defined and obviously much harder. More and more women are seeing the beauty in having toned arms. I think many of them already know how sexy, strong, developed legs are. A defined female back is incredibly sexy. Just let the words come out naturally...and express exactly why a toned woman is hot!

Yea, she knows. She's a Crossfitter/boxer herself, so it wasn't too surprising to her.

I started working at Gold's Gym after when I graduated high school in Venice Beach California. It was a place to work at but also extremely rewarding. My co-worker got me a job there because he knew the head manager of the gym at the time. I became a young amateur bodybuilder while I was working at Gold's and also working out in college. During my time at Gold's I met my future wife there who was not into bodybuilding at all but she worked out a few times week. But during that time I was unhappy with my marriage and started dating female bodybuilders because I've always loved them. Raye Hollitt from Skin Deep got me into female muscle. Denise Hoshor and Chyna from the WWF were my dates at times and bedroom buddies if you know what I mean. My wife got into bodybuilding because of my interest. She knew I was horny for them. But our marriage failed miserably. After that I moved to Chicago and started dating again asking women out at the gyms and so fourth. My friend who was a personal trainer said that he met his wife on Fitness Singles dating site for people who love exercise and being active. I tried it and met my future second wife there who has from Russia. My fiance from Russia at the time didn't like bodybuilding at all. She was a bikini model. But I commented that her frame didn't match her bikini modelling because of how wide she was. Usually bikini models are slim not wide and have big beautiful breasts. My wife didn't have the usual standards. My wife's parents were both bodybuilders and she didn't take advantage of what she had. I immediately introduced my wife to bodybuilding while at a local gym in St. Petersburg. I told her she had the frame and muscle mass to go extremely huge and feel more confident about herself. She started training and never looked back. She loved it. Bodybuilding is now a part of her life. All I can say to the guys out there who want there woman as bodybuilders is that show them the ropes and be honest how you feel. It works wonders in the end.

I make a point to tell whomever I'm with what I'm into. I don't like keeping this a secret from someone so close to me and, honestly, if I don't share, there's automatically zero or near zero chance for her to care for my tastes, whatever that may amount to in the end. It's not an easy thing to do, it never feels easy to me but it beats burying my head in the sand.

Thumbs up to Brand. Great point!!!

Yep.

I was very open about it with my ex. We knew all of each other's fetishes and used them on each other to great effect. It was 9 years of great sex right up to the end. She had no muscle tone at all but wasn't insecure about my taste for muscular and dominant women. She wasn't naturally dominant herself but she sure knew how to act the part. And I would do the same for her.

If you're in a long-term relationship, I think you owe it to yourself and the person you're with to be upfront. It goes with the trust and support that should be a part of any intimate relationship. You might not be as lucky as me and have it become a part of your sex life, but at least you won't feel like you're keeping secrets. That's never good for anybody.